Tuesday, December 23, 2008

God's trying to get my attention.....

I have had a interested 2 days...

Sunday: I put something that was on my heart on God's alter. Sunday service was very moving for me and I had a good cry! (I needed it)

Monday: He revealed what I needed to see regarding that situation. I had major decisions to make and I did what was needed to be done. I have had a 'season' with these people. It was fun while it lasted but in the end, it was in MY best interest to part ways. I value friendship when it's apparent others don't. Therefore all of them were CUT OFF. I will still have cordial relationships, but as far as friendships that is OVER.

Today: I get up and read my emails around 5am. I get about 300 a day easily. Most I skip over but this one for some reason got my attention (as I don't always read the ones from this particular writer).


This was on point: I need the Peace of God in my life.... I feel out of balance and I need to focus on ME (and HIM) to get MYSELF together. I am truly a work in progress.

I must thank my Prayer Warriors & 'Keepers' out there. It is good to know y'all got my back...

2008/12/23

Christmas Brings the Peace of God
by Rick Warren


You will experience God’s peace, which is far more wonderful than the human mind can understand. His peace will guard your hearts and minds in Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:6 (NLT)

*** *** *** ***
Once you make peace with God, that’s spiritual peace, then you get the peace of God in your heart and that’s emotional peace.


This is the one you really need for daily living. The peace of God happens in your heart when you’ve made peace with God. All of a sudden, the stress in your life goes down. You’re not as angry as you used to be. Things don’t bother you as much. You’re a lot more patient. You’re filled with a lot more love and peace.

Why? Because once you have peace with God, you have the peace of God in your heart.
The Bible says, “Don’t worry about anything. Instead pray about everything” (Philippians 4:6 NLT).

You have two choices in life: You can pray or panic, worship or worry. Those are your choices.

Worry has never solved a single one of your problems. If you prayed as much as you worry, you would have a lot less to worry about! Prayer can change things. That’s why the Bible says, “Don’t worry. Pray!”

“Pray about everything. Tell God what you need. Thank him for all that he’s done. [And if you do this] You will experience God’s peace, which is far more wonderful than the human mind can understand. His peace will guard your hearts and minds in Christ Jesus” (Philippians 4:6 NLT).

© 2008 Purpose Driven Life. All rights reserved

Thursday, December 18, 2008

Will I Ever???

This song is deep.... And as a single woman it makes you think: Will I ever fall in love? Again? 




Will I Ever 
by Lyfe Jennings


[Verse 1:]
Does it feel like ya
You're never gonna find it
Does it feel like ya
Always one step behind it
Does it feel like ya
Out in this world alone 'cause you been lookin and prayin for love so long
Does it feel like ya
Wishing on a falling star
Does it feel like ya
Lonely and it breaks your heart
'Cause it feels like ya
Ready to let down your guard
Finding somebdy's just so hard

[Pre-Chorus:]
How do you find the one you dream about (how do u find it yeah)
If I knew I'd tell you how (swear to God swear to God)
It's kinda hard for me to figure out (and I know you're ready to settle down)
I know you're ready to settle down
If there's a God above please tell me

[Chorus:]
Tell me will I ever fall in love
Will I be alone forever
Will I ever fall in love
Or will I be alone forever

[Verse 2:]
Does it feel like ya
Moving too fast
Does it feel like ya
Want something you can't have
Does it feel like ya
Living in the past
And the thought of going home alone again makes you sad
Does it feel like ya
Feeling so bad
Does it feel like ya
Getting so mad
'Cause it feels like ya
Just want someone to call
To tell ya that you're human after all

[PreChorus]

[Chorus]

[Bridge:]
To fall in love (I would do anything, anything)
To fall in love
To fall in love, love, love, love
To fall in love
To fall in love

[Chorus x2]

Tuesday, December 16, 2008

Quote of the Day!


This should be THE quote of the century!

"Whatever you give a woman, she's going to multiply. If you give her sperm, she'll give you a baby. If you give her a house, she'll give you a home. If you give her groceries, she'll give you a meal. If you give her a smile, she'll give you her heart. She multiplies and enlarges what is given to her. So - if you give her any crap, you will receive a ton of sh*t."


Love and appreciate all the women in your life.

Monday, December 15, 2008

Everyone Can't Be in Your Front Row

Everyone Can't Be in Your Front Row

Life is a theater - invite your audience carefully.


Not everyone is spiritually healthy and mature enough to have a front
row seat in our lives. There are some people in your life that need
to be loved from a distance.

It's amazing what you can accomplish when you let go,
or at least minimize your time with draining, negative,

incompatible, not-going-anywhere relationships/friendships/fellowships!

Observe the relationships around you. Pay attention
to: Which ones lift and which ones lean? Which ones encourage and
which ones discourage? Which ones are on a path of growth uphill

and which ones are going downhill?

When you leave certain people, do you feel better or feel worse?

Which ones always have drama or don't really understand, know and
appreciate you and the gift that lies within you?

When you seek growth, peace of mind, love and truth, the easier it
will become for you to decide who gets to sit in the FRONT ROW and

who should be moved to the balcony of your life.

You cannot change the people around you...but you can
change the people you are around! Ask God for godly wisdom and
discernment and choose wisely the people who sit in the front row

of your life.

"Just because no one has shown up who can love you on your level,
doesn't mean you sink to theirs!"

Saturday, November 29, 2008

There are 4 ways to make 1 million dollars....





Luck. Patience. Skill. Risk.




Let's break each one down:

Luck=Lottery
Patience=Investing for the long term
Skill=Have a Business
Risk= Leverage, Real Estate


Friday, November 21, 2008

It's Time to Believe Again


It's Time to Believe Again


Bold
It’s time to believe again. You may have situations that look like they’re set in stone, but everything you’re facing is subject to change. It is not over until God says it is over. Even if you’ve been praying for a situation for ten or thirty years, God is still at work and has an answer. We shouldn’t accept the difficult situations in our lives or unanswered prayers as permanent. Despite what’s going on externally, no matter how long things have been the way they are, decide to hope and believe in God. In the natural, things may look the same, but the scripture says in Philippians 2:13 that God is constantly at work in those who believe.


We need to have the attitude that we are not moved by what we see, but we are moved by what we know. We know is that the Creator of universe is at work in those who believe in His resurrecting power. Do you believe in the power of Almighty God? If you’ll remember how big God is and view every difficult situation as temporary, you will come to a new season of peace, faith and hope. God is always at work in those who believe!

Wednesday, October 8, 2008

Changes you can make

(Borrowed... lol)

One of the strongest memories I have from my childhood comes from when I was about seven years old. We were visiting my grandmother and I walked in on her praying out loud. She was hunched over with her hands closed and her back to me, but I remember her prayer - it still rings in my ear in her soft voice, more than two decades later.

God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.

As an adult, I now recognize the prayer as the Serenity Prayer, quoted and used in countless contexts, but still familiar to me in the soft voice of my grandmother, overheard on a cool spring morning.

Even outside of the religious context, it’s a powerful piece of wisdom for people to live their life by. There are some things in life you cannot change, no matter how stubbornly you wish to change it, while at the same time, there are many, many things you can change.

It becomes particularly powerful when you apply that filter to the difficult areas of your life - where you’re having trouble. I’ll walk through some of my deepest personal challenges, to show you what I mean.


I cannot change the stupid spending mistakes I made in the past. I spent money in countless incredibly stupid and immature ways and that added up to a debt that took me years to take care of. I can’t help but wonder where I might have been had I not made those mistakes.

I can change my spending habits going forward. Right now I can make the right choice, even though I made bad choices before. I don’t have to go out there and spend money on stuff I don’t really need. Instead, I can save it for the things that really matter.

I cannot change my hypothyroidism. It reduces my overall energy level compared to a truly normal person, period. No matter what I do in life, I can’t change that. Even taking a daily Synthroid won’t help.

I can change my exercise habits. In the end, it’s still up to me to push myself out of that chair and get some exercise in. My choice to exercise might be a bit tougher choice for me than for others, but it’s still a choice, and I have the power to make the right one.

I cannot change the amount I owe on my mortgage. I owe a lot of money on my home, no two ways about it. Sometimes, thinking about the amount simply inspires awe in me.

I can change the effort I put forth into repaying it. I can directly repay it if that seems like a better investment, or invest extra funds if I can beat the rate of return on early mortgage payments. I don’t have to be trapped for the remaining twenty nine years of a thirty year mortgage unless I choose to be.

I cannot change my wife’s energy level in the evenings. My wife gets up before I do and is often really tired in the evenings, drifting off to sleep far earlier than I do. I often am up for a good hour or two while she sleeps, and I wish it weren’t so.

I can change how I spend my time in the evenings. I can spend as much time with her as I can until she goes to sleep, then focus on getting mindless household tasks done. This enables both of us to spend more time with our children - and more time with each other.

I cannot change the people I’ve let down in the past. I’ve let friendships and other connections fall apart due to lack of attention and effort to maintain them, not realizing I’m losing friends until they’re already gone.

I can change my relationships with people now and in the future. Good relationships need some regular care and maintenance, and it’s up to me to do that. Each day, I can make that choice to get in touch with a family member or friend, just to see what they’re up to and if we can help each other through life.

Today, spend some time looking at the hard areas in your life and see if you can find a piece that you can change. It might be as simple as changing a small spending habit, or it might be as big as finally realizing you need help with substance abuse. Making a change for the better in any part of your life that is dragging you down is the surest way to financial and personal
success.

Tuesday, September 16, 2008

Joke of the Day


Some of my friends have nothing better to do but send me emails... (Thanks Maria lol) This one still have me laughing over here ha ha ha!

Wednesday, September 3, 2008

Relationship Info (Married or Singles)

If you're not married yet, share this with a friend. If you are married, share it with your spouse or other married couples and reflect on it. An African proverb states, 'Before you get married, keep both eyes open, and after you marry, close one eye.'

Before you get involved and make a commitment to someone, don't let lust, desperation, immaturity, ignorance, pressure from others or a low self-esteem, make you blind to warning signs. Keep your eyes open, and don't fool yourself that you can change someone or that what you see as faults aren't really important. Once you decide to commit to someone, over time his or her flaws, vulnerable-abilities, pet peeves, and differences will become more obvious.

If you love your mate and want the relationship to grow and evolve, you've got to learn to close one eye and not let every little thing bother you.You and your mate have many different expectations, emotional needs, values, dreams, weaknesses, and strengths. You are two unique individual children of God who have decided to share a life together. Neither of you are perfect, but are you perfect for each other? Do you bring out the best in each other?

Do you compliment and compromise with each other, or do you compete, compare, and control? What do you bring to the relationship? Do you bring past relationships, past hurt, past mistrust, past pain? You can't take someone to the altar to alter him or her. You can't make someone love you or make someone stay. If you develop self-esteem, spiritual discernment, and 'a life', you won't find yourself making someone else responsible for your happiness or responsible for your pain.

Manipulation, control, jealousy, neediness, and selfishness are not the ingredients of a thriving, healthy, loving and lasting relationship! Seeking status, sex, wealth, and security are the wrong reasons to be in a relationship. What keeps a relationship strong? Communication, intimacy, trust, a sense of humor, sharing household tasks, some getaway time without business or children and daily exchanges (a meal, shared activity, a hug, a call, a touch, a note).

Leave a nice message on the voice mail or send a nice email. Sharing common goals and interests. Growth is important. Grow together, not away from each other, giving each other space to grow without feeling insecure. Allow your mate to have outside interest. You can't always be together. Give each other a sense of belonging and assurances of commitment. Don't try to control one another. Learn each other's family situation. Respect his or her parents regardless.

Don't put pressure on each other for material goods. Remember for richer or for poorer. If these qualities are missing, the relationship will erode as resentment, withdrawal, abuse, neglect, dishonesty, and pain replace the passion.

The difference between 'United' and 'Untied' is where you put the I.

Thursday, August 21, 2008

FOCUS ON YOUR SOUL

If you truly want to break through your addiction to mediocrity, your recovery must be spiritual. It doesn't necessarily involve going to church. That is good, but without a personal relationship with God, churchgoing is empty. Focus on what your soul hungers and thirsts for: to relate to God. God bless you as you pass on this message of hope to others. Bishop TD Jakes

My prayer for you today;

(1) You will find favour with someone you don't expect ...Amen.
(2) You will be too relevant to be ignored,.............Amen.
(3) You will encounter GOD and will never remain the same,..........
Amen.
(4) The grace for completion will come on you, you shall be blessed till the blessed call you blessed,...........Amen.
(5) The hand that will send this message to others shall not labour in vain,.........
Amen
(6) The mouth saying ''Amen'' to this prayer shall laugh forever,...........Amen.

Very Very soon and I say Very Very Very soon, GOD is going to do a miracle and lift u up 4 GOOD.


Tuesday, August 19, 2008

Words of Wisdom for Today


Dear GOD,


The lady reading this is Beautiful, Classy, STRONG and I LUV HER.


Help her live her Life to the Fullest. Please promote her and cause her to excel above expectations.Help her to shine in darkest places and love where it is impossible to love.


Send to all the ladies u love. I just did.


Enjoy your day!!

Sunday, August 17, 2008

Is your hut on fire? Today mines was smokin'...

The only survivor of a shipwreck was washed up on a small, uninhabited island. He prayed feverishly for God to rescue him. Every day he scanned the horizon for help, but none seemed forthcoming. Exhausted, he eventually managed to build a little hut out of driftwood to protect him from the elements, and to store his few possessions. One day, after scavenging for food, he arrived home to find his little hut in flames, with smoke rolling up to the sky. He felt the worst had happened, and everything was lost. He was stunned with disbelief, grief, and anger. He cried out, "God! How could you do this to me?" Early the next day, he was awakened by the sound of a ship approaching the island! It had come to rescue him! "How did you know I was here?" asked the weary man of his rescuers. "We saw your smoke signal," they replied.

The Moral of This Story:
It's easy to get discouraged when things are going bad, but we shouldn't lose heart, because God is at work in our lives, even in the midst of our pain and suffering. Remember that the next time your little hut seems to be burning to the ground. It just may be a smoke signal that summons the Grace of God.

** I was reading an email and came across this scripture and decided to add this to my blog post: "And it shall come to pass in that day, that his burden shall be taken away from off thy shoulder, and his yoke from off thy neck, and the yoke shall be destroyed because of the anointing" (Isaiah 10:27).


P.S. You may want to consider passing this on, because you never know who feels as if their hut is on fire today or like mines... smokin'....

Thursday, August 14, 2008

My Girl Jennifer!!

Someone sent me a email full of Jennifer pictures.
These two happen to be my favorite out of the bunch.

She is working it!!



Tuesday, August 12, 2008

A Thought for today...

When we react to something, we are tapping into our animal nature. As far as we know, animals are not able to access that split second before a response. Their desires are compulsive, and their reactions are as well; they go for the instant gratification.

When we pause first or restrict our response, however, we are tapping into our God nature. We are choosing to no longer be the effect of our desire. Instead, we are choosing to be the cause.

Restriction, by the way, doesn't mean that we won't decide to satiate that desire after all. It just means that we pause and make a conscious decision.

Today, do whatever it is you do. Just make sure you're doing it by choice, not habit.

Tuesday, August 5, 2008

Is He/She the One... THE RIGHT ONE?

Is HE/SHE the ONE? THE RIGHT ONE?

First we must allow our Heavenly Father to do the picking. And second, the decision for a mate must be made on a spiritual and intellectual basis before it's made on an emotional one.

"What about love? Shouldn't that be the third?" you ask. No, and I'll tell you why.

"The heart is deceitful above all things and beyond cure. Who can understand it? (Jeremiah 17:9).

The heart is willful and is driven by its own agenda. It does not consider things rationally and intelligently it just loves to love! Therefore you have to point it in the right direction: "Above all else, guard your heart, for it is the wellspring of life" (Proverbs 4:23).

Whenever you meet a man, you need to get clearance from God, check out his attributes, and then allow your heart to engage.

Dating exists not for mating ; it exists for collecting data. I believe that the biblical design would be friendship, courtship and then marriage. Friendship is two people walking together in agreement and accountability, learning and growing together. Courtship follows the mutual agreement to commit to one another exclusively - it is the decisive turning toward the agreed-upon goal of the marriage altar. It is a period of laying a foundation and preparing your life together after marriage.

But dating? Well, if you do date, use the time wisely to gather these facts.

1. Check out the fabric. Is the person mate material? Does this man have an intimate relationship with the Father through Jesus Christ? Does he care what God thinks about his behavior? Is he accountable to God as well as another co-laborer in the faith? Accountability is an important factor. It is imperative to maintaining a committed relationship. Is your potential spouse a member of the same family - the family of God?

You need to have common interests and values and agree on the essentials of living day to day. You have a similar spiritual walk. You eat the same spiritual diet. You enjoy a lot of similar things. You have like interests, like goals in life, like opinions on basic life issues. You have had like experiences in your background. Though there is some truth to the idiom that opposites attract, like-minded folks fare better together.

Furthermore, does he want to get married? If you want to be married and your dreamboat isn't interested, don't waste your time.

Remember, women fall in love and get married. Men decide to get married and then look for a wife. Note the difference in order. So if a guy says he's not looking for anything serious, take his words seriously. If he's not going in your direction, get off the bus and wait for the right one.

2. Does this man want you? Is he pursuing you? The man who is right for you will pursue you, and God's hand in the relationship will be clear. No guessing, no fleeces, no dead ends.

Scripture says: "He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the Lord" (Proverbs 18:22). Note - who finds whom? THE MAN FINDS THE WIFE. From the beginning of time, God has transported men and women across the world in order to put them together.

At the RIGHT TIME, He will bring that man on the scene and he will find you. In God's perfect design, the man is the one who recognizes his mate. Adam has no problem recognizing that Eve was his missing rib. You do not need to strategically place yourself anywhere. You don't have to help a guy out because he's shy!

Men will do whatever they have to do to get what they truly want. The man in your life should recognize you as the pearl of great price in his life and be willing to do whatever he must in order to gain your hand. If he is passive about gaining your affections, take it as a sign that he is not interested.

Many a woman's mother has suggested that it is a good idea to marry a man who loves you more than you love him. As cold as that sounds, it actually might be scriptural if you stop to think about it: "We love him because he first loved us" (1 John 4:19). Until then, take the ultimate chill pill. You don't need a bunch of men in your life to make you feel all right about yourself.

You need only one man - your man, the one God has selected to select you. And trust me, the right man at the wrong time can be just as awful as the wrong man at any time. So trust God's timing in this. He is the ultimate matchmaker. Relax, sit pretty and allow yourself to be found. Again - WAIT until the man voices his intentions. He should take the lead in establishing the relationship. You may have an inkling that he is the one, but God will use the man to set the tone of the relationship. Allow him the opportunity to woo you - this is your first act of submission. J esus set the standard for all men to follow. They should love us first. And they should lead the relationship.

3. The man in your life should not desire to move into your house, only into your heart. A man who prepares for your future has made his intentions clear. A man who is husband material has the means to take care of a wife. He is a responsible human being who understands he needs to have something to offer. In short, a man should have the means to be a suitable lover for you.

4. Check out his buddies. Everyone knows birds of the same feather flock together, yet most women fail to see the connection between a man and his friends. A man's pals tell you a lot about the person that you haven't seen yet. They reveal things about the guy's character that might be hidden when he is on good behavior. Everyone knows how to put his best foot forward. Don't stay focused on the foot, check out the rest of the body!

5. Check out his relationship with his mother. How does he treat her? This is your preview of how he will treat you. There are lots of men who, because of a negative relationship with their mothers, really don't like women, yet say they do. Unresolved issues between mother and son continue between husband and wife.

6. Remember that a man's family reveals the cloth from which he's cut. Take note and decide whether you want your future with the man in your life to look like his present family situation.

7. Check out the patterns of his life. Do you see repeated cycles of drama in his personal kingdom? Broken relationships? Problems in making commitments --including the job market? Mood swings? Is a problem always someone else's fault? Does he embrace responsibility or shirk it? Does he keep his promises? Is he a man of good reputation? Remember all garments look wonderful hanging in the store, but with wear, some begin to unravel. Give yourself time and space to check out the man in your life. Time will always reveal whether or not he is made of the right stuff.

8. Does this man have a vision for his life? Is he running with that vision? Remember, God decided Adam needed help once Adam got busy DOING his assignment. As we saw Adam, a man doesn 't need help until he is busy doing what he was created and called to do. Is the man in your life guided by sense of destiny and purpose, or does he just allow life to happen around him? A man who is not certain of his mission can be a most miserable person - and you'll be miserable too if you know where YOU want to go in life.

A man who has vision is not intimidated by a woman whose mission statement is clear. He will be your best ally, cheerleader and assistant because he wants you both to make it! A man who cannot be supportive of your achievements because he is floundering in a sea of uncertainty over his own life is not a healthy partner to have and to hold forever.

Creating dependencies or feelings of obligation is not the way to get the best out of your man. Somewhere along the way, he will resent you and flee from the smothering burden of obligation he associates you with. You want a man who is firmly anchored in his identity in Christ. Remember, we are looking for a man who will be priest and leader of his home. His first instinct should be to want to cover you, redeem you, and provide for you. Your job is to decide if this is the man God has ordained for you to complement.

9. Complimentary. Do your talents and gifts complement his? Do his gifts, compliment yours? What about your temperaments? Do you see the two of you as an effective team capable of bringing blessing to the lives of those around you? Do your futures mesh? Can you coordinate your gifts in an attractive and effective way?

This is why knowing your purpose is so important. Make sure your hearts beat for mutual causes. When I go shopping I always consider the fabric, the fit and what I already have in my closet. Will my next purchase be a complimentary addition to what I already have? If I find that I am going to have to buy shoes and matching accessories to go with a new outfit, I leave it right on the rack. It is too expensive a proposition.. If the man you meet makes you feel that you need to completely reinvent yourself, something is wrong.

This is where I ask you to consider the relationship in terms of cost. Is this relationship expensive spiritually, emotional or physically? Does your longing for a mate make you willing to forfeit who you are in the process? Or does he see you as the gift that you are? The man in your life should consider you a rare find, a priceless jewel-because of you he is getting ready to get blessed big-time! Any relationship that causes you to feel unworthy, unlovely, unacceptable, undesirable or that you have to work for love, is too expensive!

God has called the man to cover, protect and provide not only materially for a woman, but emotionally and spiritually as well. You should be richer in mind, body and spirit for your union with the man of your dreams. The man in your life should make rich deposits into your heart and spirit, not withdrawals.

10. Does he have a healthy love and acceptance of himself? Make sure the man in your life has taken time to heal from past relationships and has made peace with himself. How he cares for himself is how he will care for you.

A man's relationship with God is crucial here.. His love for himself will only be as strong as his love for God. This is not something that you can impart. You cannot be his savior or teacher. That is out of spiritual order. In his rightful place as your personal priest, he should be leading you to a richer relationship with Christ.

If he is causing you to compromise your faith and destabilize your walk, if he is leading you into sexual sin or causing you to be distracted from your commitment to God, the relationship is too expensive. Offending the Lover of your soul, who promises you eternal love, is too high a fare to pay for a ride that has a limited run. If you and your man can't soar in the Spirit, when the force of your love for another is tested by the pull or gravity of the world, your union will not be able to survive.

So you decide. How much is your life worth? How much is your love worth? You will be able to accept only what you believe you deserve. God himself calculated the worth of your love and decided it was worth His life. He now pledges you His love for eternity. Yes, Jesus sets the example for all others to follow when He paid a ransom for His bride. Should you expect less from a mortal man? Throughout the Biblical age, men were willing to pay the cost for what they truly desired. The truth of the matter is, everyone knows that anything worth having, costs and no one gets a ride in this life for free.

Our prayer:
Dear Heavenly Mother/Father, God
I confess that I have not always been as careful as I should've been with my heart. From time to time, my desire for love has caused me to leave my heart in the wrong hands. I now commit my heart into Your hands for safekeeping. Please help me to stop being so impulsive with what you deem so precious. As I learn to celebrate Your love for me, let me learn from Your example what a bridegroom should really be like. Help me to never settle for less than what you desire for me. As I embrace You as the Lover of my soul, keep my affections in the haven of Your own heart. As I rest in Your love, make me more discriminating of those who approach me.

I ask that You take over this area of my life.. Keep me from those You know would hurt my heart. I invite You to set a hedge around me and keep me from all who would draw me into unfruitful relationships until the day you present me to the mate that You have selected for me.. Grant me the discernment to recognize him as he recognizes me. Cleanse me from the temptation to typecast the men I meet according to what I see. Help me to t rust in Your knowledge and lean not on my own understanding. I know that You know what is best for me; therefore I yield to Your choice. In Jesus Name. Amen.

Ladies this is something you should definitely share with a friend, whether you are single or married... It is something to think about, When you ask is "He" the one!

Tuesday, June 24, 2008

The Man I Desire Has Got To:


** This came across my desk today... what do you think about this list? Any additions/deletions??


The Man I Desire Has Got To:

Love, honor and have a relationship with God
Love, respect and support the women in his life
Have a stable career
Manage his money responsibly
Love music
Be committed to uplifting the community
Be secure with himself... his success, his failures, his shortcomings
Want children or take care of the children he already has
Be mentally stable with a normal dose of psychosis (hey, we're all crazy at some point in our lives!)
Honest, open and expressive communicator
A man who I can trust and share my past, my failures and my joys with
A man who knows how to lead and isn't afraid to be the head
A man who shies away from asking a woman for money
A man who knows that I love , Friends, Girlfriends, The Food Network, reality tv, musicals, good books, good wine my yahoogroups and leaves me alone when I want to indulge
A man who is comfortable enough with himself to share his innermost secrets
A man who is well-versed in literature, religion and politics
A man who shares my love of music, literature, social scenes, movies
A man who has a positive attitude about himself and about life in general
A man who I can physically and emotionally rely upon (if need be) - I want to be able to seek him first and not my daddy to fix things or my girlfriends for support...
A man who knows that I am an observer and a lover of beautiful things yet secure and knows that he's the only one that I want

Thursday, June 19, 2008

Closed Doors


We need to learn to thank the Lord for closed doors just as
much as we do for open doors. The reason God closes doors
is because He has not prepared anything over there for us.

If he didn't close the wrong door we would never find our
way to the right door. Even when we don't realize it, God
directs our paths through the closing and opening of doors.
When one door closes, it forces us to change our course.
Another door closes; it forces us to change our course
yet again.

Then finally, we find the open door and walk right into
our blessing. But instead of praising God for the closed
door (which kept us out of trouble), we get upset because
we "judge by the appearances." And in our own arrogance,
or ignorance, we insist that we know what is right. We
have a very present help in the time of need who is always
standing guard.

Because He walks ahead of us, He can see trouble down
the road and HE sets up road blocks and detours accordingly.
But through our lack of wisdom we try to tear down the
roadblocks or push aside the detour signs. Then the minute
we get into trouble, we start crying "Lord how could this
happen to me?"

We have got to realize that the closed door was a blessing.
Didn't He say that "No good thing will He withhold from
them that love Him?" If you get terminated from your job -
don't be down, instead thank God for the new opportunities
that will manifest themselves - it might be a better job, or
an opportunity to go to school. If that man or woman
won't return your call - it might not be them, it might be
the Lord setting up a roadblock (just let it go).

One time a person had a bank he had been doing business
with for many years tell him "NO" for a $10,000 loan. The
Lord led him to call another bank. That bank approved a
$40,000 loan for him at a lower interest rate than his own
bank had advertised.

I'm so grateful, for the many times God has closed doors to
me, just to open them in the most unexpected places. "The
steps of a good man are ordered by the Lord, and He delights
in his way." (Psalms 37:23)
The Mountain top is glorious, but it is in the Valley that I will grow!
Thank God for open and closed doors.... Amen

Always Remember God gives you...

Enough Happiness to keep you Sweet
Enough Trials to keep you Strong
Enough Sorrows to keep you Human
Enough Hope to keep you Happy
Enough Failure to keep you Humble
Enough Success to keep you Eager
Enough Friends to give you Comfort
Enough Wealth to meet your Needs
Enough Enthusiasm to make you???? look forward
Enough Faith to banish depression,
Enough Determination to make each day a better day than the last.

Life must be lived forward but can only be understood backwards.

Commit to the Lord in whatever you do and your plans will succeed.
(Proverbs 16:3)

If you love God, share this and He will continue to open and close
doors for you.

Wednesday, June 18, 2008

One Thing To Never Forget

This hits so close to home for me these days..... I hope you enjoy it as much as I did :)




Your presence, is a present to the world.
You're unique and one of a kind.
Your life can be, what you want it to be.
Take the days, just one at a time.
Count your blessings, not your troubles.
You'll make it through, whatever comes along.
Within you, are so many answers.
Understand, have courage, be strong.
Don't put limits on yourself.
So many dreams, are waiting to be realized.
Decisions are too important, to leave to chance.
Reach for your peak, your goal and your prize.
Nothing wastes more energy, than worrying.
The longer one carries a problem, the heavier it gets.
Don't take things too seriously.
Live a life of serenity, not a life of regrets.
Remember, that a little love goes a long way.
Remember, that a lot of love goes forever.
Remember, that friendship is a wise investment.
Life's treasures, are people... together.
Realize, that it's never too late.
Do ordinary things, in a extraordinary way.
Have health, hope and happiness.
Take the time, to wish upon a star.
And don't ever forget....
For even a day....
How very special you are.
-- Author Unknown

Monday, June 16, 2008

I Believe

I Believe

I believe- that our background and circumstances
may have influenced who we are, but we are responsible
for who we become.

I believe- that no matter how good a friend is,
they're going to hurt you every once in a while
and you must forgive them for that.

I believe- that just because someone doesn't love
you the way you want them to doesn't mean they don't
love you with all they have.

I believe- that true friendship continues to grow,
even over the longest distance. Same goes for true love.

I believe- that it's taking me a long time to become
the person I want to be.

I believe- that you should always leave loved ones
with loving words. It may be the last time you see
them.

I believe- that you can keep going, long after you
can't.

I believe- that we are responsible for what we do,
no matter how we feel.

I believe- that either you control your attitude
or it controls you.

I believe- that heroes are the people who do what
has to be done when it needs to be done, regardless of
the consequences.

I believe- that money is a lousy way of keeping
score.

I believe- that my best friend and I can do anything
or nothing and have the best time.

I believe- that sometimes the people you expect to
kick you when you're down, will be the ones to
help you get back up.

I believe- that sometimes when I'm angry I have
the right to be angry, but that doesn't give me the
right to be cruel.

I believe- that maturity has more to do with what
types of experiences you've had and what you've
learned from them and less to do with how many
birthdays you've celebrated.

I believe- that it isn't always enough to be forgiven
by others. Sometimes you have to learn to forgive
yourself.

I believe- that no matter how bad your heart is
broken the world doesn't stop for your grief.

I believe- that just because two people argue, it
doesn't mean they don't love each other And just
because they don't argue, it doesn't mean they do.

I believe- that you shouldn't be so eager to find
out a secret. It could change your life forever.

I believe- that two people can look at the exact
same thing and see something totally different.

I believe- that your life can be changed in a
matter of hours by people who don't even know you.

I believe- that even when you think you have no
more to give, when a friend cries out to you, you will
find the strength to help.

I believe- that credentials on the wall do not make
you a decent human being.

I believe- that the people you care about most in
life are taken from you too soon.
I BELIEVE IN YOU!!!

'THE POWER OF PRAYER. I believe that God only gives three answers to prayer: 1. "Yes!" , 2. "Not yet." , 3. "I have something better in mind."

Friday, May 30, 2008

A YOUNG BLACK WOMAN'S GUIDE TO SURVIVAL

10 THINGS YOUR MOTHER SHOULD HAVE TOLD YOU
Written by: Dana Orr,



10. BE SELECTIVE IN FRIENDSHIPS.

Friendship is not charity, it's a give-and-take relationship. Your friends should be people you love, admire and respect. Don't be afraid to expand, or change your circle of friends. As you get older, you may head in a different direction than those you once considered your 'best friends forever'. As you evolve and mature, you may grow apart from friends who no longer fulfill you - it's ok! Hold this person in your heart, but be true to yourself when devoting time, energy and emotion to anyone you seriously consider a 'friend'.


9. RE-INVENT YOURSELF WHEN NECESSARY.

Self-reinvention is a way to constantly reflect and assess your goals and priorities in your personal, academic and professional life. The concept of self-reinvention allows you to reconsider your lifestyle and, at any given moment, change a particular course of action. The beauty of this process is that you don't have to beat yourself up about behaviour you consider undesirable. You should actually feel great that you have enough sense to realize the error of your ways (whatever they may be), and can spontaneously commit to change. Congratulations - you just solved a problem!


8. PROTECT YOURSELF.

HIV/AIDS is the #1 killer of black women ages 19-27 in America . You are not corny or lame if you insist on an HIV test before having sex with someone. In fact, you're stupid to give up responsibility for your health and put your life in someone else's hands. Please DO NOT FALL FOR the age-old trick: 'Look at me - what am I supposed to do now?!' All men masturbate. Politely tell your partner that he should focus on 'self- love' until you're certain that he deserves to enter your temple.


7. JEALOUSY IS A WASTED EMOTION.

People who love themselves and recognize their worth are unable to be jealous of others. Why? You should be so preoccupied with loving yourself and changing what you don't like, you have no time to worry about what others are doing. Being jealous of someone is a waste of energy. You cannot control other people and the choices they make, or the luck they have. Weak people let other's circumstances affect their self-love and/or self-worth. Resist the temptation to be envious, as it will get you nowhere. If anything, let other people motivate you to achieve certain goals for yourself.


6. CARRY YOURSELF LIKE A LADY.

Embrace that which makes you a woman, and by all means, take advantage of the privileges that we have. Force men around you to treat you with the respect they would their mother, aunt or sister. Insist that your doors be opened for you, order your food first in a restaurant, and sit in the front seat if you are the only female in the car. There is nothing wrong with being 'pleasantly demanding'. Along with the privilege of womanhood comes a certain responsibility. Being a true 'lady' means you exhibit manners that would make your grandmother proud, your clothes are tasteful and appropriate for your age, and your hair and nails are always clean. These little things make a big difference in n how you are viewed by outsiders, and the quality of men that you attract.


5. KEEP UP WITH CURRENT EVENTS.

Staying in touch with what's going on in the world is very important. Not only is it important to be aware of national and global issues, it makes you a lot more interesting to others because you always have something to talk about. It doesn't take much to watch the news, read the newspaper online, or buy an issue of TIME magazine or Newsweek. Don't forget - parents and teachers are a great source of information on current events, and would love to have a conversation with you about something 'serious'.


4. Travel.

Do you have a passport? If not, get one. Before you are saddled with the responsibilities of a job and a family, take advantage of your freedom and travel. Instead of buying a new outfit, buy a plane ticket. See other parts of the world and observe other cultures. More importantly, have fun! Plan a trip with a friend to a social event in another city, a beach on an island, or a city in a foreign country. Capture your memories with photos or in a diary (or a blog). You will cherish them forever.


3. Be Proud To Be Black.

Black culture and heritage is based on strength, perseverance, and rich talents. You should have an overwhelming sense of cultural pride - as black people, we are so very special. Don't EVER feel as if you aren't equal to another person simply because you're black. If you have any question as to the importance of black people to our society, or how smart, beautiful, talented, funny and fascinating we are, start reading. Watch old movies. Read plays. Go see plays. Buy tickets for dance and musical performances. Seek opportunities to study academic topics involving, or related to, black people. Talk to your relatives that lived through some of the historical events you've heard about. Get on the Internet and study people with whom you're familiar. Keep in mind, black pride doesn't mean exclusion of others. It is most impressive when you seek to educate other cultures about the beauty and greatness of being black.


2. Have a Cause.

As long as you're here, it is your duty as a human being to help make the world a better place. Let your natural talents and passion lead you to an issue that keeps your attention, and to which you can commit your time and money. Get involved with groups that already exist. If your particular cause is new or unique, start your own group and make your friends join. Helping others is an easy way to feel good about yourself, and invest in the future of your community.


1. Love Yourself.

This is #1 and most important, yet challenging, mission to accomplish. Self-love is critical to survival at any age, and may be quite a personal journey. Loving yourself means recognizing, developing and honouring a sense of self-worth. Loving yourself means you have zero tolerance for anyone or anything that doesn't love you and respect you. Loving yourself also means you must treat yourself well, simply because no one else will do it for you

Tuesday, May 6, 2008

I Think This Applies To You


I Think This Applies To You

A good woman is proud of herself. She respects herself and others. She is aware of who she is. She neither seeks definition from the person she is with, nor does she expect them to read her mind. She is quite capable of articulating her needs. A good woman is hopeful. She is strong enough to make all her dreams come true. She knows love, therefore she gives love. She recognizes that her love has great value and must be reciprocated. If her love is taken for granted, it soon disappears. A good woman has a dash of inspiration, a dabble of endurance. She knows that she will, at times, have to inspire others to reach their God given potentials.

A good woman knows her past, understands her present and moves toward the future.

A good woman knows God. She knows that in God, the world can be her playground, but without God she will just be played. A good woman does not live in fear of the future because of her past. Instead, she understands that her life experiences are merely lessons, meant to bring her closer to self knowledge and unconditional self love.

Friday, April 25, 2008

BEST FRIEND




BEST FRIEND

Last night you and your best friend had a fight. You decide not to talk to
her the next day.

She smiles at you. You grind your teeth at her.

She tells her friends nice things about you. You spread bad rumors about her.

She tries to come and talk to you. But you push her aside.

She thinks you are a great friend. You think she is a terrible friend.

She writes nice notes to you, telling you about the best times you shared together. You write about all the bad times you can remember experiencing together.

Deep down you know she's sorry. But all you have is hate.

The next day you find a note. It reads:

Dear -------------,

I tried to tell you yesterday, but you didn't let me speak, I tried to tell you good things, but you were afraid to hear them. I tried to smile at you, to take away the hate. But now it's time to tell you, even though it's a bit late. That I am dying.

I have a bad condition and it is getting worse. I'm sorry to have to tell you that I won't be able to see you today. I wrote this to you today in the hospital. My time is up. I'm sorry I should have told you sooner. I'm really sorry about our argument; you are such a great friend. I promise I shall watch over you,

Lots of love

-------------

You run to the hospital to tell her you are sorry,

But only her mum is left.

Her hand clasped over her face.

And she was crying. Down on her knees she prays, for her daughter to come back.

You are too late.

You wish you told her sorry sooner and got to say goodbye.

All friends have their ups and downs, and sometimes you need to say sorry... Don't wait for the other person to do it first.

Because you never know what could happen.

-- Author Unknown

Friday, April 18, 2008

A Prayer for Today


A Prayer for Today

Father in heaven, I trust that You are willing and able to make a way where there seems to be no way in my life. Fill me with Your peace and faith and give me a vision for all You have for me. In Jesus’ Name. Amen.

Wednesday, April 16, 2008

You are Necessary by Bilal

*Inspired by "Love Walked In" by Marisa de los Santos

**This is a work of fiction -Written by Bilal (brutha66@yahoo.com)

There are those in our lives who come and go and at some level that
is fine.

But there are those in our lives who come in and realize how
necessary they are to our lives and to our daily existence as it is
knowing them that makes the journey a little bit smoother.

Not easy, but smoother (smile).

You are one of those people who have become necessary to my life and
for that I am truly grateful.

I am also so many other things but my mind is swimming with emotions
and I can only attach "grateful" at this time but give me time
(smile).

In knowing you and with you being necessary to my life it shines a
light that possibly and matter-of-factly that I am necessary to your
daily existence as well and you know what? That has my heart doing
cartwheels. Yes, cartwheels and maybe a back flip but I am 35 so I
am not as spry as I used to be but for you I will most certainly try.

All I ask is that if I fall you come and give me a hand. See, how
necessary you are? (LOL).

I love you with all of my being and at times I may not say it enough
but in our history you know why that is the case but let me at this
opportune let you know that I love you and that you are necessary to
my life.

There are days when we go at it but after the storm we come together
in forgiveness and in love.

No, we did not go to pre-school or to the same elementary school or
were childhood friends but two people who met one day at an outing 5
years ago and from that time to present you have become a necessary
part of my life and one that I cherish each and every day.

It is like I have known you all of my life although you and I both
know the truth but with you it feels that way and how you have come
not just into my life but have become a part of me.

You are necessary to me and I am thankful to God above for blessing
me and knowing my needs in providing me someone such as yourself.

Tuesday, April 15, 2008

Think


Think

If you think you are beaten, you are;
If you think you dare not, you don't;
If you'd like to win but you think you can't,
You can almost be certain you won't.

If you think that you'll lose, you are lost,
For out in the world you will find
Success begins with a person's will;
It's all in the state of the mind.

If you think you're outclassed you are;
You've got to think high to rise.
You've just got to be sure of yourself
Before you can win the prize.

Life's battles don't always go
To a stronger or faster man (or woman) - I added this one in ;)
But sooner or later the person who wins
Is the person that THINKS they can.
- Anon.

Tuesday, April 8, 2008

God Today Devotions April 7, 2008


God Today Devotions April 7, 2008


Keep thy heart with all diligence; for out of it are the issues of life. Proverbs 4:23


The secrets of our heart are revealed in our actions. We may appear to be strong, and capable, sweet and kind, but there may be turmoil, strife, jealousy or anger buried deep within. Regardless of how we may try to hide our feelings they will eventually become visible in our lives. We must guard our hearts, placing them in the hands of God allowing Him to heal the brokenness and fill it with His goodness. Our hearts are naturally corrupt but when God dwells within us He changes them and fills them with His goodness. We must be willing to ask God to look deep within our hearts, to clean them and to heal them.


Prayer:

Search my heart Lord and remove all that is not You. I open my heart and ask that You fill it with Your treasure and help me to protect it always. May my heart always hunger for You, saturate it with Your love. You are my heart's desire.


Amen.

Thursday, April 3, 2008

Live.... and enoy LIFE!

As we grow up, we learn that even the one person that wasn't supposed to ever let you down probably will.

You will have your heart broken probably more than once and it's harder every time. You'll break hearts too, so remember how it felt when yours was broken. You'll fight with your best friend. You'll blame a new love for things an old one did. You'll cry because time is passing too fast, and you'll eventually lose someone you love.

So take too many pictures, laugh too much, and love like you've never been hurt because every sixty seconds you spend upset is a minute of happiness you'll never get back.

Don't be afraid that your life will end, be afraid that it will never begin.

Wednesday, April 2, 2008

AWESOME QUOTE!!!

'Never allow someone to be your Priority while allowing yourself to be their Option'

I have used a quote similar to this one as a signature. This is SO true!

It is not healthy to make someone that doesn't give two hoots about you a priority when all they see you is an 'occasional' option.... I can write more but I'd better stop here lol!

Ya Feel Me





Tuesday, April 1, 2008

i carry your heart with me....

i carry your heart with me
(i carry it in my heart)
i am never without it
(anywhere i go you go,my dear;
and whatever is done
by only me is your doing,my darling)

i fear not fate
(for you are my fate,my sweet)
i want no world
(for beautiful you are my world, my true) and it's you are whatever a moon has always meant and whatever a sun will always sing is you

here is the deepest secret nobody knows (here is the root of the root and the bud of the bud and the sky of the sky of a tree called life; which grows higher than soul can hope or mind can hide) and this is the wonder that's keeping the stars apart

i carry your heart (i carry it in my heart)

***

by: e.e. cummings


Life is not measured by the breaths you take...but by the moments that take your breath
away....

Monday, March 17, 2008

Shekinah Glory Ministry - YES lyrics

AWESOME AWESOME AWESOME SONG!!!


Will your heart and soul say, yes?
Will your Spirit still say, yes?
There is more that I require of thee;
Will your heart and soul say, yes?

Now will your heart and soul say, yes?
Will your Spirit still say, yes, yes?
If I told you what I really need,
Will your heart and soul say, yes?

(Repeat All)

(Choir)
Soul say, Yes!
(Lead's adlib)
Open up your heart and
Tell the Lord: Yes!
Say: Yes, yeah yeah!
Say:
I'll obey Jesus, I won't stray Jesus
But this time I've made up in my mind, I've made up in my mind
I'll say, say say, Yes!
My soul says yes,
My mind says,
My heart says yes, yes,
Yes I will Jesus,
Yes, Yes!
I'll do what You want me to do
I'll say what You want me to say

I'll go, if You lead me,
If you lead me, if you lead me,
If you lead me,
If you lead me I'll go, yes!

Lift your hands and tell the Lord,
Come on open up your heart and say: Yes, yes, yes!!!

ALL God wants is, YES!
All God wants, all God wants,
All God wants is YES,
I won't be afraid
I'll step out on Your Word
I'll declare Your glory
Yes I will, Yes I will
I wanna do Your will Jesus,
I wanna do your will,
I wanna do your will
My soul says
Yes, yes, yes, yes!!

(Background the whole song)

Yes (repeat)

There is more that I require of thee (repeat)

My soul says:
Yes!...

Friday, March 14, 2008

My mom...

I was having a bad day yesterday and I called my mom to talk... after told her what was going on she said the sweetest thing to me....

She is proud of me and my accomplishments thus far.

That put me in tears. My family are not open with their affection (a family trait lol) and that threw me for a loop. I love my mommy!!

No. 1 Mom





Monday, February 25, 2008

Good Black Men!


Food For Thought:

Good Black Men are indeed all around us. We pass them on the streets, in the malls, and at work. Most we can't see because we don't know what a good man really looks like. He usually isn't flashy enough or rich enough to turn our heads. He might not wear a suit or push a Lexus. He might not have a body like Tyson with a Denzel face. But, as you mature, you realize it's better to find someone who's got your back rather than someone who turns your head.

A good man doesn't agree wholeheartedly with everything you say. He doesn't just tell you what you want to hear and do the opposite. He doesn't declare how sensitive, sweet, caring, sincere, etc. he is (he won't have to because it shows). He has his own opinions and yours may clash, but he doesn't have to degrade you to prove he's right. He even admits at times to being wrong, especially if you are willing to do the same.

A good man is not going to meet every item on your checklist. He is human with frailties and faults mixed in with all of his wonderful, strong attributes. He needs your love and respect. He needs to feel that you don't live to catch him doing something wrong so you can declare, "Aha! I knew you were a dog!"

A good man isn't insecure about his woman having great achievements. In fact, he is her number one supporter and becomes disappointed with her when she begins to lose herself, especially for the sake of not hurting his feelings, or only wanting to make him happy. His happiness comes with seeing her excel in her dreams and accomplishing her goals. For as she excels and is exalted, a good woman will bring her good man right along with her.

A good man doesn't necessarily give you a huge birthday or Valentine's gift. He shows his love in the ways that are comfortable to him. Don't judge him by TV standards. No one is really living a fairy
tale. You'll miss ! out on your own fairy tale by buying into the myth that our men are no good. It's just not true.

A good black man is a man of his word. He says what he means and means what he says. His word is his bond. He never leaves you wondering if he is going to call or show up - he is dependable. A good black man has a love and a heart for God. As his relationship and love with and for God grows so will his relationship and love with and for you grow...

Thursday, February 21, 2008

Do you have a male friend....

That you can confide in??

I have one. And let me tell you he comes in handy!! Whenever I have a situation that warrants the male perspective, I can always count on his words of wisdom or his girl are ya crazy for doing saying that?? He's a good male friend...

Do you have one?

Friday, February 15, 2008

Sweetest Email Message!


I have NEVER met this man, but we have been email buddies for about 5+ years now. We have been conversating about how my Valentine's Day went... or lack there of... Look at his response:

"Well no matter what my Lovely you can always have me as a valentine, and now that I know your Birthday is Friday, I may not be your man, but I will make sure you my beautiful lady get something. I will never understand how men never appreciate the beautiful flowers that they have."

What really moved me was this statement: "I will never understand how men never appreciate the beautiful flowers they have." He made me go into a "full bloom" when I read that!!

Online friends can be better than the real ones..... LOL!
>>Part 2!

"I see, I am flattered that you liked some of my statement. But what I spoke is truth. I know people and hell, I may even be one, who have the most beautiful women and then something happens and the love is lost, or cast aside for what? For want of two allegedly mature individual not being able to sort out their differences without one feeling they lost.

In a way I am glad that my ex and I can still communicate they way we do. there is no hate. Just an understanding that we have different views on things and paths that we must travel."

Thursday, February 14, 2008

Happy Valentine's Day!


Sonnet XVII

I do not love you as if you were salt-rose or topaz,
or the arrow of carnations the fire shoots off.
I love you as certain things are to be loved,
in secret, between the shadow and the soul.

I love you as the plant that never blooms,
but carries in itself the light of hidden flowers.
Thanks to your love a certain fragrance,
risen darkly from the earth, lives darkly in my body.

I love you without knowing how, or when, or from where,
I love you straightforwardly, without complexities or pride,
so I love you because I know no other way than this:
where "I" does not exist, nor "you,"
So close that your hand on my chest is my hand,
So close that your eyes close and I fall asleep.

-Pablo Neruda (from 100 Love Sonnets)

Tuesday, February 12, 2008

A Prayer for Today

Heavenly Father, help me to hear Your voice clearly.

I surrender every area of my heart to You today and ask that You remove anything that displeases You.

Thank You for leading me on a good path for my life.

In Jesus’ Name. Amen.

Friday, February 8, 2008

The Four Agreements

The Four Agreements, Don Miguel Ruiz

1. Be Impeccable With Your Word
Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love.


2. Don't Take Anything Personally
Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won't be the victim of needless suffering.


3. Don't Make Assumptions
Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.


4. Always Do Your Best
Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse and regret.

Wednesday, February 6, 2008

You are not an accident...

"You know me inside and out.... how I was sculpted from nothing into something" Psalm 139:15

Your birth was no mistake or mishap,
and your LIFE is no fluke of nature.
Your parents may not have planned you, BUT
God did.

Saturday, February 2, 2008

Keyshia Cole - I Remember

There is a part of this song that hits close to my heart: For the rest of my life, I promise myself I Will love me first GENUINELY.....
Keyshia Cole I Remember Lyrics

OOOhh yeah oh yeah
Oooh, remember
Oooohh remember, don't wanna know

Where were you, when I said I loved you?
And where were you, when I cried at night?
Waiting up, couldn't sleep without you
Thinking of, all the times we shared

I remember when my heart broke
I remember when I gave up loving you
My heart couldn't take no more of you
I was sad and lonely

I remember when I walked out
I remember when I screamed I hated you
But somehow deep inside, still loving you, sad and lonely

No one knew, all the pain I went through
All the love, I saved deep in my heart for you
DIDN'T KNOW WHERE I WOULD GO, WHERE I WOULD BE
But you made me leave,
and plus my heart it just
It just kept telling me so

I remember when my heart broke
I remember when I gave up loving you
My heart couldn't take no more of you,

I was sad and lonely
I remember when I walked out
I remember when I said I hated you
But somehow deep inside, still loving you, so sad and lonely

There was nowhere else to go, oh
Nobody else, to turn to, no
For the rest of my life,
I promise myself I
Will love me first
GENUINELY

I remember when my heart broke
I remember when I gave up loving you
My heart couldn't take no more of you
I was sad and lonely

I remember when I walked out
I remember when I said I hated you
But somehow deep inside, still loving you, sad and lonely
I remember when I walked out
I remember when I gave up loving you
My heart couldn't take no more of you
so sad and lonely

I remember when I stormed out
I remember when I gave up loving you,
I was sad and lonely

Friday, February 1, 2008

It All Starts With God....

It's not all about you...
You were born by God's purpose
And for His purpose....
Focusing on ourselves will never
reveal our life's purpose.

Thursday, January 31, 2008

God's Boxes


** I've always liked this.... I'm learning to LEAVE my sorrows in the black box and don't look back...


God's Boxes

I have in my hands two boxes,
Which God gave me to hold.
He said, "Put all your sorrows in the black box,
And all your joys in the gold."

I heeded His words, and in the two boxes,
Both my joys and sorrows I stored,
But though the gold became heavier each day,
The black was as light as before.

With curiosity, I opened the black,
I wanted to find out why,
And I saw, in the base of the box, a hole,
Which my sorrows had fallen out by.

I showed the hole to God, and mused,
"I wonder where my sorrows could be!"
He smiled a gentle smile and said,
"My child, they're all here with me.."

I asked God, why He gave me the boxes,
Why the gold and the black with the hole?
"My child, the gold is for you to count your blessings,
The black is for you to let go."

Wednesday, January 30, 2008

Diva-tude Attitude Check one, Check two!

My Goals

Spiritually: Have a better relationship with God
Action plan: Read my bible more

Relationally: Actually I need to step back from this for a minute
Action plan: I need to sit back and see what's really going on here... and make some adjustments

Physically: Lose weight (15 pounds so far)
Action plan: Continue with WW and hitting the gym

Professionally: Build my real estate client database
Action plan: Hand out more cards and attend networking events

Financially: Increase my savings
Action plan: Stop shopping (Lord HELP ME in this area!)

My first priority is building my savings. I have grand plans and I need to fund this PLAN.

My greatest motivation is my mom. She is so proud of her baby and what I have accomplished. But she has always been my source of inspiration.

My greatest reward will be one day being totally debt free and live life like it is GOLDEN; spiritually and financially!

Someone.....

I am really digging this one! The bottom line is I have to learn....

Someone can love you, but you make yourself happy.
Someone can teach you, but you must apply what you learn.
Someone can coach you, but you must win the game.
Someone can give you an opportunity, but you must show up capable and prepared.
Someone can tell you truth or lies, but you must learn discernment.
Someone can tempt you, but you must learn discipline.
Someone can offer you advice, but you must learn to trust your own inner knowing.
Someone can be selfish and withhold love, but you must learn how to give.
Someone can pity you, but you must learn to bear your own sorrow.
Someone can reject and leave you, but you must learn to feel whole.
Someone can ignore you, but you must see your own value and worth.
Someone can help you, but you must learn to do for self.
Someone can hold a grudge, but you must learn how to forgive.
Someone can show you a new way, but you must want the change.
Someone can offer you love, but you must feel worthy of receiving love.
Someone can encourage you, but you must motivate yourself.