Monday, February 25, 2008

Good Black Men!


Food For Thought:

Good Black Men are indeed all around us. We pass them on the streets, in the malls, and at work. Most we can't see because we don't know what a good man really looks like. He usually isn't flashy enough or rich enough to turn our heads. He might not wear a suit or push a Lexus. He might not have a body like Tyson with a Denzel face. But, as you mature, you realize it's better to find someone who's got your back rather than someone who turns your head.

A good man doesn't agree wholeheartedly with everything you say. He doesn't just tell you what you want to hear and do the opposite. He doesn't declare how sensitive, sweet, caring, sincere, etc. he is (he won't have to because it shows). He has his own opinions and yours may clash, but he doesn't have to degrade you to prove he's right. He even admits at times to being wrong, especially if you are willing to do the same.

A good man is not going to meet every item on your checklist. He is human with frailties and faults mixed in with all of his wonderful, strong attributes. He needs your love and respect. He needs to feel that you don't live to catch him doing something wrong so you can declare, "Aha! I knew you were a dog!"

A good man isn't insecure about his woman having great achievements. In fact, he is her number one supporter and becomes disappointed with her when she begins to lose herself, especially for the sake of not hurting his feelings, or only wanting to make him happy. His happiness comes with seeing her excel in her dreams and accomplishing her goals. For as she excels and is exalted, a good woman will bring her good man right along with her.

A good man doesn't necessarily give you a huge birthday or Valentine's gift. He shows his love in the ways that are comfortable to him. Don't judge him by TV standards. No one is really living a fairy
tale. You'll miss ! out on your own fairy tale by buying into the myth that our men are no good. It's just not true.

A good black man is a man of his word. He says what he means and means what he says. His word is his bond. He never leaves you wondering if he is going to call or show up - he is dependable. A good black man has a love and a heart for God. As his relationship and love with and for God grows so will his relationship and love with and for you grow...

Thursday, February 21, 2008

Do you have a male friend....

That you can confide in??

I have one. And let me tell you he comes in handy!! Whenever I have a situation that warrants the male perspective, I can always count on his words of wisdom or his girl are ya crazy for doing saying that?? He's a good male friend...

Do you have one?

Friday, February 15, 2008

Sweetest Email Message!


I have NEVER met this man, but we have been email buddies for about 5+ years now. We have been conversating about how my Valentine's Day went... or lack there of... Look at his response:

"Well no matter what my Lovely you can always have me as a valentine, and now that I know your Birthday is Friday, I may not be your man, but I will make sure you my beautiful lady get something. I will never understand how men never appreciate the beautiful flowers that they have."

What really moved me was this statement: "I will never understand how men never appreciate the beautiful flowers they have." He made me go into a "full bloom" when I read that!!

Online friends can be better than the real ones..... LOL!
>>Part 2!

"I see, I am flattered that you liked some of my statement. But what I spoke is truth. I know people and hell, I may even be one, who have the most beautiful women and then something happens and the love is lost, or cast aside for what? For want of two allegedly mature individual not being able to sort out their differences without one feeling they lost.

In a way I am glad that my ex and I can still communicate they way we do. there is no hate. Just an understanding that we have different views on things and paths that we must travel."

Thursday, February 14, 2008

Happy Valentine's Day!


Sonnet XVII

I do not love you as if you were salt-rose or topaz,
or the arrow of carnations the fire shoots off.
I love you as certain things are to be loved,
in secret, between the shadow and the soul.

I love you as the plant that never blooms,
but carries in itself the light of hidden flowers.
Thanks to your love a certain fragrance,
risen darkly from the earth, lives darkly in my body.

I love you without knowing how, or when, or from where,
I love you straightforwardly, without complexities or pride,
so I love you because I know no other way than this:
where "I" does not exist, nor "you,"
So close that your hand on my chest is my hand,
So close that your eyes close and I fall asleep.

-Pablo Neruda (from 100 Love Sonnets)

Tuesday, February 12, 2008

A Prayer for Today

Heavenly Father, help me to hear Your voice clearly.

I surrender every area of my heart to You today and ask that You remove anything that displeases You.

Thank You for leading me on a good path for my life.

In Jesus’ Name. Amen.

Friday, February 8, 2008

The Four Agreements

The Four Agreements, Don Miguel Ruiz

1. Be Impeccable With Your Word
Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love.


2. Don't Take Anything Personally
Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won't be the victim of needless suffering.


3. Don't Make Assumptions
Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.


4. Always Do Your Best
Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse and regret.

Wednesday, February 6, 2008

You are not an accident...

"You know me inside and out.... how I was sculpted from nothing into something" Psalm 139:15

Your birth was no mistake or mishap,
and your LIFE is no fluke of nature.
Your parents may not have planned you, BUT
God did.

Saturday, February 2, 2008

Keyshia Cole - I Remember

There is a part of this song that hits close to my heart: For the rest of my life, I promise myself I Will love me first GENUINELY.....
Keyshia Cole I Remember Lyrics

OOOhh yeah oh yeah
Oooh, remember
Oooohh remember, don't wanna know

Where were you, when I said I loved you?
And where were you, when I cried at night?
Waiting up, couldn't sleep without you
Thinking of, all the times we shared

I remember when my heart broke
I remember when I gave up loving you
My heart couldn't take no more of you
I was sad and lonely

I remember when I walked out
I remember when I screamed I hated you
But somehow deep inside, still loving you, sad and lonely

No one knew, all the pain I went through
All the love, I saved deep in my heart for you
DIDN'T KNOW WHERE I WOULD GO, WHERE I WOULD BE
But you made me leave,
and plus my heart it just
It just kept telling me so

I remember when my heart broke
I remember when I gave up loving you
My heart couldn't take no more of you,

I was sad and lonely
I remember when I walked out
I remember when I said I hated you
But somehow deep inside, still loving you, so sad and lonely

There was nowhere else to go, oh
Nobody else, to turn to, no
For the rest of my life,
I promise myself I
Will love me first
GENUINELY

I remember when my heart broke
I remember when I gave up loving you
My heart couldn't take no more of you
I was sad and lonely

I remember when I walked out
I remember when I said I hated you
But somehow deep inside, still loving you, sad and lonely
I remember when I walked out
I remember when I gave up loving you
My heart couldn't take no more of you
so sad and lonely

I remember when I stormed out
I remember when I gave up loving you,
I was sad and lonely

Friday, February 1, 2008

It All Starts With God....

It's not all about you...
You were born by God's purpose
And for His purpose....
Focusing on ourselves will never
reveal our life's purpose.