Daily Reflections of....

Nae's Year 2011 Overview.....

2011-04-13T19:58:00.004-04:00

** Don't ask me why I read my horoscope for the 1st time this year.... But I like what this says LOL! Year 2011 Overview Don't stop believing, Pisces! This year is nothing short of miraculous, filled with all-things sublime. Take advantage of lucky Jupiter's final hurrah in your sign at the start of the year. If you've been procrastinating on turning your visions into a goldmine, January is your time to bust a serious move and catch the amazing non-stop momentum of 2011. There's no spacing out, hiding home or escaping from reality. Things are just too good to miss! Speaking of missing, don't miss the boat Pisces; Jupiter only enters your sign once every 12 years. That said, you do have the auspicious advent of another awesome planetary boon when your planetary ruler, Neptune enters Pisces in April. For the next 14 years, your super-sensitivity and matchless compassion serve you well. You'll feel like you're in your own element rather than your usual fish out of water feeling. The world will join with you in feeling the suffering of the world. Your dreams and imaginative powers are nothing to be taken lightly. Divine messages, synchronicity and channeling the gods become a daily experience between April and August, and then again in 2012 to stay. Despite your consistent protesting over the ills of materialism and that money is the root of all evil -- you may be seriously changing your tune as money seems to be falling from the sky this spring. With six planets lining up in your money sector on May 1, it's time to make some serious bank -- ready or not.

Vision Board 2011

2010-12-28T21:55:00.005-05:00

Visualization is an important success element in your goal achievement efforts. A very powerful way to apply visualization is by creating a so called "Vision Board", also known as a "Dream Board". It is one of the most powerful ways to put the Law of Attraction to work for you. A Vision Board is a collage of pictures of the goals and dreams you want to attract in your life. Important is to really use the exact image of what you want to attract, as whatever you show on your Board will become part of your reality! So if you want a specific kind of car, make sure it is exactly the type, model and color you desire.

A very basic and fun way of creating a Vision Board is by taking a big piece of carton, scissors, glue and tons of magazines. Go through the magazines and search for images of your dreams, or search for the right images on the internet. Cut out the images and glue them on your cardboard. For more power, add affirmations such as "I love driving my new car" or "I spend lots of quality time with my family". This reinforces what you desire.

Hang your vision board in a spot where you will see it on a very regular basis, such as at your desk or in the kitchen. Look at it daily, and really FEEL as if you have already achieved the things on your Board. It is precisely this FEELING that will help you to attract your vision into your life. Therefore, make sure to look at your Board as often as possible with focused intent. You will be happily surprised to see the things on your Vision Board show up in your life -sooner or later- providing you keep putting your intention on them and you stay positive and inspired.

My visions for 2011:

Increasing my current relationship with God
Keep striving ahead towards my degree
Being diligent with my exercise and weight loss efforts
Find a new job that will be more fulfilling at the end of the day

By looking at your Vision Board on a daily basis, you will manifest the life you truly desire and absolutely deserve!

Taking inventory of your gifts and blessings

2009-12-30T07:51:00.003-05:00

You'll probably spend some time this weekend thinking about the good things in your life and your loved ones. Before you do that, take a moment to just consider how lucky you are to be here in the first place. In the 21st century, we can experience more in a month than most people throughout history did in a lifetime. Instead of appreciating that fact, we usually just end up wanting to do and have more. We look at what's wrong rather than what's right. This is a perfect time to take a look at your life and priorities again. Can you make some extra time every day to just enjoy the moment and your loved ones? You've been given the gift of a lifetime of moments. Accept the gift and prove yourself worthy.

How to Love a Black Man Biblically

2009-12-24T08:54:00.002-05:00

** I don't agree with the all of the items listed in the "Ten Problems that Black Men have with Black Women" but I left the article intact. Personally I think most of these qualities is actually what makes us STRONG BLACK WOMEN. But that's my opinion LOL

Song of Solomon 1:2
Matthew 26:47-48

The Ten Problems that Black Men have with Black Women:
1) Black Women make Black men feel unappreciated, unwanted, irresponsible, and regressive.
2) Black Women are too aggressive, and are impatient when it comes to waiting on a man to pursue them.
3) Black Women are too strong-headed and independent, which presents great challenges in relationships.
4) Black Women are masculine in that they are controlling and like to “run” the relationship.
5) Black Women expect too much. They are gold diggers who will not look twice at a blue-collar black man.
6) Black Women are hot-headed and have bad attitudes.
7) Black Women stop caring about their appearance once they are in a relationship.
8) Black Women are not open to other areas of intimacy. (paraphrased)
9) Black Women’s tolerance is far too low; they are not empathetic to the Black Man’s struggle in a racist society.
10) Black Women do not cater to their man as much as they cater to themselves and their child.

The context of Song of Solomon is that King David was going through a very small town and saw a woman who was working in the garden. She captured his attention by the way she worked. He returned to the palace, but could not get her off his mind. Consequently, he disguised himself and dressed like a peasant. He returned to the vineyard and won her over. Song of Solomon is a collection of 7 poems that talks about how they met: their courtship, engagement, wedding, honeymoon and the life they lived after.

Four C’s On How to Love a Black Man.

1. Cheerleader.
Every woman involved with a black man has to learn how to be a cheerleader. A cheerleader is of no consequence when the team is winning. When the team has scored a touch down, you can’t hear the cheerleaders because the whole stadium is ecstatic and excited. Cheerleaders are necessary after a tackle, a hit or an injury. Every black man yearns to have somebody on the sidelines who will cheer for him when he’s not making progress.

2. Conditioner.
a) Hair Conditioner. A conditioner is something that improves the quality of another matter. Every woman is supposed to condition, or improve a man’s quality of life. Most heterosexual men only use shampoo, while most women who take care of their hair use shampoo and conditioner. The shampoo is incomplete by itself. The conditioner is the sealant. Women need to understand that they are incomplete without men, and vice versa. When we connect, we seal and complement each other.

The conditioner does several things:
It detangles. A woman’s first assignment in loving a black man is to bring order.
The conditioner also stops breakage. The role of a woman who is involved with a black man is to stop him from having break downs.

The conditioner alleviates dandruff (signs of death in the scalp). Dandruff always shows itself at eye level, so you can see a man when he’s starting to die. Life no longer excites him. Therefore, to stop the death process, a woman has to condition him.

Conditioner also brings gloss. The role of a woman who is living with a black man is to help him shine. Don’t minimize him even though you make more money.

a) conditioner is also an acidifier. In order for a man to love a woman wholly, he’s got to be healed from what is in his head.
b) An air conditioner is an instrument used to change the environment. It produces both air and heat. Air conditioners do not produce the air, they recycle the air. The role of a woman in a man’s life is to be an environment transformer.
c)Fabric Conditioner/Fabric Softener prevent static cling. If you want to love a black man and have him love you back, you cannot have static cling.

3. Co-pastor
The man in biblical structure/order is the priest of the home. Unfortunately, in the Christian construct more often than not the woman is more disciplined in spirituality than the man. The woman in that relationship is assigned, or deputized, as the co-pastor.

4. Conspirator
The woman who is connected to a black man has to come up with a conspiracy for his success - setting him up for greatness in his absence.

SOS 1:2 “Let him …” This is very critical because Solomon, the wisest man who ever lived, is advising sisters who love a black man to let him feel like it was his idea, let him believe that he was right. It says “Let him kiss you…” this implies that the woman has the authority, but the man can’t operate in that authority without her permission. The male ego is such a fragile entity. He doesn’t need to know all the things a woman has done on his behalf.

God’s conspiracy for man was to make him feel like “he’s the man,” but man didn’t understand it until God introduced him to a woman, the conditioner. Her role was to condition him for a place in God.

Regina's Family Seasons: Parental Training And Godly Foundations

2009-11-30T09:53:00.000-05:00

Regina's Family Seasons: Parental Training And Godly Foundations

Ego.... I'm really digging this song!!

2009-06-17T08:36:00.001-04:00

Ego lyrics
Songwriters: Knowles, Beyonce Gisselle; Lilly, Harold; Williams, Elvis;

Oh baby, how you doing?
You know I'm gonna cut right to the chase
Some women were made but me, myself
I like to think that I was created for a special purpose
You know, what's more special than you? You feel me

It's on baby, let's get lost
You don't need to call into work 'cause you're the boss
For real, want you to show me how you feel
I consider myself lucky, that's a big deal

Why? Well, you got the key to my heart
But you ain't gonna need it, I'd rather you open up my body
And show me secrets, you didn't know was inside
No need for me to lie

It's too big, it's too wide
It's too strong, it won't fit
It's too much, it's too tough
He talk like this 'cause he can back it up

He got a big ego, such a huge ego
I love his big ego, it's too much
He walk like this 'cause he can back it up

Usually I'm humble, right now I don't choose
You can leave with me or you could have the blues
Some call it arrogant, I call it confident
You decide when you find on what I'm working with

Damn I know I'm killing you with them legs
Better yet them thighs
Matter a fact it's my smile or maybe my eyes
Boy you a site to see, kind of something like me

It's too big, it's too wide
It's too strong, it won't fit
It's too much, it's too tough
I talk like this 'cause I can back it up

I got a big ego, such a huge ego
But he love my big ego, it's too much
I walk like this 'cause I can back it up

I, I walk like this 'cause I can back it up
I, I talk like this 'cause I can back it up
I, I can back it up, I can back it up
I walk like this 'cause I can back it up

It's too big, it's too wide
It's too strong, it won't fit
It's too much, it's too tough
He talk like this 'cause he can back it up

He got a big ego, such a huge ego, such a huge ego
I love his big ego, it's too much
He walk like this 'cause he can back it up

Ego so big, you must admit
I got every reason to feel like I'm that bitch
Ego so strong, if you ain't know
I don't need no beat, I can sing it with piano

© B-DAY PUBLISHING; ELVIS LEE MUSIC; EMI APRIL MUSIC INC.; EMI BLACKWOOD MUSIC INC.; UNCLE BOBBY MUSIC;

He’s Not Intimidated, He Just Doesn’t Like You: The Intimidation Doctrine

2009-05-12T13:45:00.001-04:00

Ok people I just have to say it. For a long time I was willing to give women the benefit of the doubt, but no longer. As I enter the realm of my thirties being single and anxious about just where my life is going, I know there are jillions of similarly-situated women who feel the same way. I think most women who reach their thirties and are still single go thru a range of emotions almost daily. Sometimes we feel very liberated and independent, relishing a life full of opportunities unhampered by domestic obligations. Other days we are full of fear wondering if we will ever find a mate and enjoy the benefits of companionship.

Will we find someone to experience the bigness of the world with? Will we find someone to grow old and fat with? Although we enjoy our freedom, we know there will come a day when sitting on the couch at home with a bottle of wine and a dog watching Tivo just wont do it. We wonder if we will end up dying alone only to be found after three days by a home care worker who doesn’t speak English. But enough about me.

That being said, I want to address a lie that many of us tell ourselves about why we may be alone at this stage of our lives. And though I focus on my fellow thirtiers, this really goes for all women.

Because the “single” designation is such a source of anxiety as you get older, we oft find the need to justify our status. We have these little reasons that we tell ourselves we’re alone to make us feel better. And its time for it to stop. If I hear one more woman say that men are intimidated by their success and/or independence I’m gonna scream. I call this the Intimidation Doctrine. Other than Iraq having WMD, this is one of the biggest lies of our time.

When a woman is attractive, educated, financially independent and generally successful and STILL single, many of us start to believe that our success is part of the problem. When relationships don’t work out, we automatically go into the “well, he’s just intimidated by my success” routine. And its time for us to get real with ourselves.

We have to stop making excuses for our failed relationships. Too often these excuses lay all the blame on someone else. As long as we believe that most men are intimidated by strong successful women, we fail to look at ourselves for the reasons we cannot maintain successful relationships. The Intimidation Doctrine keeps us looking outward for fault. It relinquishes us of all responsibility. And I think its holding us back.

I must admit, I have never been a follower of the Initimidation Doctrine because I KNOW I’m fucked up and have issues. (I know I can be selfish, spoiled, obnoxious and a total smart ass, but I’m working on it) However, I see too many of my fellow mature sisters relying on this theory and I think its destructive. We must start to consider what role we have in cultivating our personal relationships and stop placing the blame on everyone else but ourselves.
Maybe its not because you’re successful but perhaps because you wear your success on your sleeve, because you’re arrogant, because you are sure to let a man know in the first conversation that you don’t NEED him or anyone else.

Maybe its not because you’re successful, but perhaps because you are arrogant, a know-it-all, a snob or intolerant of others who have taken a different path in life.

Maybe its not because you’re successful, maybe you are a cold bitter bitch who believes the world owes you something. You have worked hard and made it on your own without the help of any man so you don’t want a man thinking he is doing you any favors by his presence and you let him know this as often as possible.

Maybe its not because you’re successful, maybe you have turned into a hardened, disenchanted, cynic who is annoyed that fat broke women with two kids can get a man easier than you. And your anger oozes from your pores.

Maybe its not because you are successful, but because your success is all you have. You wield it like a sword. You are always looking and waiting for the fight so you can show just how fly you are and how a man should be happy just to have someone like you. You feel you are the only prize in this relationship.

Maybe its not because you’re successful but because you are just tired. Tired of dating, tired of it not working out, tired of the game. Because you’re so tired, you go into potential relationships with little enthusiasm or excitement and you’re just a general drag.

Maybe its not because you are successful but because you are afraid. Afraid to open up, afraid to be vulnerable again, afraid to lay it all out there. You use your success as a shield that you hide behind because you are afraid of being hurt, afraid of change, afraid of letting someone else into your tightly-controlled life. You play the role of successful bad-ass because you are afraid of just being a woman. Sometimes its hard to switch from being the boss all day to being a partner, a friend. Understandable. But still your issue.

Maybe its not because you are successful but because you are closed. Closed to real love because of any combination of the reasons above.

Sometimes men aren’t intimidated by your success, but turned off by what your success has done to you. The type of person it has made you.

We can’t improve ourselves if we keep blaming our failures on others. When you look at your lack of luck in the romance department first look, inward. Listen to the feedback you’ve gotten, those things you ignored because you thought the guy was just jealous of your success and wanted to cut you down because you made him feel insecure. Just maybe he was telling the truth. Maybe he wasn’t intimidated at all. Maybe you are a mean, intolerable arrogant bitch of a woman. It could be that simple.

Now will you meet men who will be insecure with your accomplishments? Maybe. But far fewer than you make yourself believe. Stop relying on the Intimidation Doctrine to explain away your lack of love life. Start listening and start looking inward at what issues you may be bringing to the table, ways you could possibly be a better partner, lover or friend.

Open your heart and your mind to whoever may come your way. Focus on what you both are bringing to each other’s lives. Its not a competition. Try being the type of person you are looking for. Recognize and appreciate what others have to offer and know that if you are the best person you can be, you cant lose.

By no means am I saying settle for less. Keep your standards high, go after the type of life and partner you want. Just make sure your high standards apply to you too.

So let’s put away the Intimidation Doctrine. Much like “hating” its become a term we use to dismiss criticism by just placing the focus on someone else. And just like “hating” it results in us missing the opportunity to learn and improve our lives.

So next time things don’t work out, don’t go to ole reliable “he’s just intimidated by me,” and really examine your role in what went down. You may be surprised, maybe he wasn’t intimidated by you. Maybe he just doesn’t like you.

Now enough of that, Ive got a bottle of wine to finish and a Golden Girls marathon is starting…

Peace people.

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TURN YOUR SECURITY SYSTEM ON!

2009-04-29T08:55:00.001-04:00

TURN YOUR SECURITY SYSTEM ON!

A horrible thing happened to me today.....a thief broke into my house. It
happened shortly after I awoke this morning. I got up and began rushing
about. I had a thousand things on my list and was already running behind.
Quickly, I gulped down breakfast, took a shower and got ready for work.

In my rush, I forgot to turn the security system on at my house. It was just
about a half an hour later that the thief broke in. Of course, he didn't
make a sound. Just kind of snuck inside, not drawing any attention to
himself. In fact, none of the neighbors ever saw him.

But, I did.

You see, I WAS HOME when the thief broke in.

He naturally startled me, as I was unprepared for his visit. He, of course,
didn't announce that he was coming and I certainly had not invited him over.

And yet, I found myself face to face with danger and I felt so powerless. I
also felt so very stupid, because this whole incident could have been
avoided if I had just taken the time to turn the security system on.

You better believe I'll be turning it on tomorrow morning! I thought I'd
warn you about this guy, because he's still on the loose. Chances are, he's
in your area. Possibly even headed for your house.

His name? His name is Satan. You see, this morning when I jumped up in my
haste to get started on my busy day, I skipped my prayer time - opting to
"pray later today." In other words, I DIDN'T TURN ON THE SECURITY SYSTEM. My
defense wasn't on, my guard was dropped ..... and when the thief came into
my home to attack me, I was unprepared to do battle. He tempted me and I
felt powerless. Like I said, I also felt so very stupid, because I could
have avoided the incident if I had just taken the time to pray.

My friend, the thief has come to "steal, kill and destroy." And, as a Child
of God, you are on his "hit list." He'll probably pop over to your house
today. He may be lurking outside your door right now, just waiting to catch
you off guard.

Take time to pray this morning. Ask God to bind Satan from your very
presence, to protect you and empower you to do battle. In short ..... don't
forget to turn your security system on.

-- Author Unknown

Get Serious About Being Happy

2009-04-21T11:43:00.001-04:00

This Week's Topic: Get Serious About Being Happy! :)

"...there is nothing better for people than to be happy and to do good while they live." - Ecclesiastes 3:12

Dear Friend,

What would make you happier? I know, I know. It's a vague question, but think about it. What is within your control that would genuinely add to your level of happiness? Whatever it is, this week, I challenge you to do it. Why? Because happiness can literally prolong your life.

Amazingly, the effect of unhappiness on longevity is comparable to that of smoking, according to a recent analysis of 30 scientific studies on happiness. As a society, we all know by now that smoking is dangerous for your health, but have you ever considered that being unhappy could have health consequences? It's time to take your happiness seriously!

For years, I thought of being happy as a fleeting pursuit - a temporary state of being. Spiritually speaking, I believed a more noble aim was to have joy and be content no matter my circumstances. Of course, those are important, too. But several years ago, I ran across this scripture written by the very wise King Solomon in the Book of Ecclesiastes:

"There is nothing better for people than to be happy and to do good while they live. That each of them may eat and drink, and find satisfaction in all their toil - this is the gift of God" (Ecclesiastes 3:12-13).

In other words, be happy in the everyday activities of life. Find satisfaction in your work. Help others. It is a divine gift to be happy when life is a routine. Abraham Lincoln once noted that, "Most people are about as happy as they make up their minds to be." If he was right, then happiness is a choice - an approach and an attitude that we choose to carry into our work, our relationships, and our lives.

As I listened to a presentation about happiness recently, given by noted sociologist Dr. Ruut Veenhoven, I was intrigued by his classification of four qualities of life that comprise overall happiness and well-being. Consider them (paraphrased below with my definitions and coaching questions) to help you determine the areas of your life in which you may have room to enhance your happiness and well-being:

1. Livability
"Livability" is about the environments in which you live, work and play. Does your environment nurture you or drain you? Do the circumstances in which you find yourself empower you to thrive or to merely survive? What would create a more livable and happier environment for you?

2. Life Abilities
Life abilities are your personal strengths, knowledge, preparation, flexibility and potential. They can be developed, explored and improved upon. Greater personal abilities often create more enjoyable opportunities. What talents and strengths are going underutilized in your life? What potential is going untapped?

3. Meaning
How is someone's life better because they cross your path? We find the greatest meaning in life when we live the purpose for which we were divinely created. And that purpose must be good for something or someone more than you. This element of happiness is about serving, helping, and making a difference.

4. Satisfaction
This is about your overall satisfaction with your life. Are you content with where you are? If not, what shift is it time to make? Dissatisfaction can be a catalyst for change, as long as you are honest about where you are dissatisfied. What aspects of your life bring you joy?

My challenge to you this week:
Get serious about being happy! Choose a joyful attitude. Do something that brings a smile to your face - or to someone else's.

Journaling assignment:
What would make you happier? How could you experience more happiness in the everyday activities of your life? Consider the four qualities of life: livability, life abilities, meaning and satisfaction. In which area(s) do you feel fulfilled? In which area(s) do you see room to grow?

Until next time ...

Warm wishes,

Because of who You are...

2009-04-15T12:04:00.003-04:00

** I have been listening to this song for the past 3 days...

Because of who You are... Vicki Yohe

I worship you Lord.
Ooh thank you Jesus.

Mhmm. Thank you Lord, I love you Lord.

Because of who you are I give you glory.
Because of who you are I give you praise.
Because of who you are, I will lift my voice and say:
Lord I worship you because of who you are.
Lord I worship you because of who you are.

Because of who you are I give you glory
Because of who you are I give you praise
Because of who you are, I will lift my voice and say:
Lord I worship you because of who you are.
Lord I worship you because of who you are.

(You see, you're Jehovah)
Jehovah Jirah
(My provider)My provider
(Jehovah Nissi) Jehovah Nissi
(Lord you reign)
Lord you reign in victory.
(You reign in victory)
Jehovah Shaloh
(You're my prince of peace)
My prince of peace.
(And I worship you...)
And I worship you because of who you are.
(Just because, just because)

Because of who you are I give you glory.
Because of who you are I give you praise.
[ Vicky Yohe Lyrics are found on www.songlyrics.com ]
Because of who you are, I will lift my voice and say:
Lord I worship you because of who you are.
Lord I worship you because of who you are.

(You see, you're Jehovah)
Jehovah Jirah
(My provider)My provider
(Jehovah Nissi) Jehovah Nissi
(Lord you reign)
Lord you reign in victory.
(You reign, you reign in victory)
Jehovah Shaloh
(You're my prince of peace, yes you are)
My prince of peace.
(And I worship you)
And I worship you (not because of what you've done but just because of who...) because of who you are.(you are you are)

(Jehovah, Jehovah Jirah)
Jirah
(My provider)
My provider (Oh you made a way when there seemed to be no way)
Jehovah Nissi (Jehovah Nissi)
(Lord you reign, you reign, you reign)
(you reign in victory)
Lord you reign in victory
(Jehovah Shalo) Jehovah Shalo
(You're my prince of peace)
My prince of peace
(yes you are)
(And I worship you)
And I worship you...
(I was born to worship, I love to worship)
And I worship you...(Ooh you know the Jesus)... because of who you are.
(Oooh I love you lord, I love you lord)
Oh, nobody like you Jesus.
And I worship you because of who you are...

The Strongest Nails in the World

2009-04-07T11:06:00.002-04:00

The Strongest Nails in the World
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Tuesday, April 7, 2009

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My friend Alan was working with a carpenter friend of his on a building project. Out of the blue, Alan sprang this rather unusual question on the carpenter, "Do you know what the most powerful nails in the world are?" The craftsman paused on his ladder for a moment and then he replied, "I don't know. U.S. Steel?" Alan said, "No. The strongest nails in the world are the three nails that held Jesus Christ on His cross." And then Alan just walked into the other room. A few minutes later, the carpenter called for Alan. He said, "Man, you've got to help me. Every time I drive a nail now, it's like I'm nailing Jesus to the cross." My friend responded, "Well, in a way, we did."

For some people, Jesus' death on a cross is just history. For others, it's a religious event. But to some of us, the brutal death of Jesus on that Roman cross is a deeply personal event. I hope it is for you, or soon will be.In Galatians 2:20, our word for today from the Word of God, there are two words that are literally life-changing. In fact, they're even eternity-changing. They're the difference between someone who has Christianity and someone who has Christ. Between someone who has a Christian religion and someone who has a personal relationship with Jesus. Ultimately, these two words are actually the difference between heaven and hell.

Galatians 2:20: "I live by faith in the Son of God, who loved me and gave Himself for me." There are the two words, "for me." One of my associates was on a plane recently with a man in his 30s who talked pretty openly about his years of spiritual searching. He said that as a young man he moved beyond his boyhood church and began experimenting with a buffet of spiritual beliefs and experiences. But nothing satisfied the restlessness in his heart. Then one day he came back to visit the church he grew up in. Here's what he said: "As soon as I walked in the door, I saw something I'd seen hundreds of times as a boy - the cross at the front of the church. But suddenly I was overwhelmed with something I had never realized before. I said out loud, "For me. What Jesus did on that cross was for me." He said his search ended that day, and the hole in his heart was finally filled.

My guess is that you know about Jesus dying on the cross. You know He died there to pay for our sins. But you somehow may have missed that life-changing moment when, in your heart, you walk up to that cross and say those words, "For me, Jesus. What You did there is for me." When my friend said that in a way we all did help nail Jesus to the cross, he was right. Because it's our rebellion against God and His ways, all our "my way" choices that left us cut off from God and under His death penalty until Jesus came and did the dying for all of our sinning. And in reality, it wasn't the nails that kept Him on the cross. After all, He's the Son of God! No, it was His deep love for you that kept Him there 'till your bill was fully paid with His life.

If you have never had your "for me" moment with Jesus, that could happen this very day right now and right where you are. Would you tell Him, "Jesus, I'm taking for myself what you died to give me. You paid for my sin so I don't have to. You died for my sin so I don't have to. Now I embrace you as my Savior; as the driver of my life. I'm taking you for me."

He Works All Things Together

2009-04-06T08:47:00.001-04:00

*This came right on time for me... God is SO AWESOME!

He Works All Things Together

TODAY'S SCRIPTURE

“And we know that God causes everything to work together for the good of those who love God and are called according to His purpose for them” (Romans 8:28, NLT).

TODAY'S WORD from Joel and Victoria

Everyone goes through things that don’t seem to make sense. It’s easy to get discouraged and wonder, “Why did this happen to me?” “Why did this person treat me wrong?” “Why did I get laid off?” But we have to understand, even though life is not always fair, God is fair. And He promises to work all things together for good for those who love Him.

I believe the key word is this verse is “together.” In other words, you can’t just isolate one part of your life and say, “Well, this is not good.” “It’s not good that I got laid off.” “It’s not good that my relationship didn’t work out.” Yes, that’s true, but that’s just one part of your life. God can see the big picture. That disappointment is not the end. Remember, when one door closes, God has another door for you to walk through—a better door. Those difficulties and challenges are merely stepping stones toward your brighter future. Be encouraged today because God has a plan for you to rise higher. He has a plan for you to come out stronger. He has a plan to work all things together for your good so that you can move forward in the victory He has prepared for you!

A PRAYER FOR TODAY

Heavenly Father, thank You for working all things together for my good. I choose to release any doubt, any frustration, any confusion over my past, and I choose to trust in You. In Jesus’ Name. Amen.

Excerpts from the promotion of Steve Harvey's book 'Act Like A Lady,

2009-03-06T11:03:00.001-05:00

Think Like A Man', Oprah's 2/27/9 show, where he was a 15-minute guest.
He said the book is the only thing he initially did for free, as a gift
to women. He did not expect in his wildest dreams that it would make the
'best-seller' list:

"Every man has a plan. A man does not lock eyes with you from across the
room or approach you just to talk, he has a plan. He saw something he
wants. This attempt at conversation is to find out how much it will cost
him. It is not only about money, but other things like how much time
must be invested, what does she want from me, what are her standards.
Because men will rise to the occasion, no matter how high the bar is
set, it's just that women keep lowering the bar, lowering their
standards. Women are complicated, they keep talking to each other, but
men are very simple. Men need only three things: support, loyalty and
the cookie."

He says if a man introduces you as his friend or just says your name,
with no title - you have nothing. Men are very protective, they mark
their territory. If a man loves you, he's willing to profess it. After
a while, he'll give you a title - his woman, his lady, his fiancé, his
baby mama, some title. If after three months he is still introducing
you by your name only, you have nothing.. The man who truly has feelings
for you will give you a title. This is his way of letting everyone
within the sound of his voice know he is proud of being with you and he
has plans for you.

Every man has a plan. He tells of one the times his father-in-law was
visiting and interrogated the boyfriend of one of his twins.. They had
dated four or five times and he asks what are his plan for his
granddaughter. After stumbling and stuttering, he finally mumbles out
that they are just kicking it. So Steve says, that's cool. Let's just
bring my daughter in now and inform her that she is just being "kicked"
- that you two are just "kicking it" and let's see if that's what she
just wants to do. They broke up the next day.

Steve says men are fishermen, either for sport or for food. Women must
determine which kind of fish they want to be. If you don't want to be
continuously hooked and thrown back, just for sport, you must present
your standards, you must stop lowering them, you must present your
requirements. Then if you are hooked, the man knows you are about
business. In other words, when you're hooked, he must know that you are
eventually going home with him, not back into the water. It is the
woman that is in control - of everything. The man cannot hold your hand
unless you let him, he cannot kiss you unless you let him and he
certainly cannot make love to you unless you let him. Now, with all that
power, why do you suddenly relinquish it, just because you want a guy to
accept you? Keep your standards where they are! Say to him, if you want
to be with me, this is what it takes. He can hook you, but he should not
be able to reel you in without meeting your standards.

A woman SKYPE's in via satellite with a question for Steve: "When
should a woman have sex the first time in a new relationship?" Steve
cites, as an example, when he once worked on the assembly line at Ford
Motor Co., where there was a probation period for new employees. Like a
lot of large companies, only after 90 days do you qualify for a benefit
package - before allowed to get dental, medical, get my eyes checked.
Within those days I was being checked out - whether I was easy to get
along with, to work with, whether I was reliable, showing up on time, if
I was worthy. Then, and only then, do you get the benefits. Why do
women, who possess the greatest benefits package of all, pass it out so
quickly to unworthy guys? Slow down ladies, you cannot run us off, if
we want you! And know that men are aware of the fact that you change
the rules - when you are desperate, when you think there is a shortage
of good men out there. And we play on it. We created terms like 'gold
digger' so you don't ask for money; the term 'nagging', so that you
don't badger us. We created these terms so that you will require less of
us. God has given all women this incredible gift called intuition. Get
in a guy's face, look in his eyes, use that intuition! 'Old School' is
not dead, chivalry is not dead, it is just not being required anymore.

Joke of the day LOL!

2009-02-26T13:30:00.001-05:00

A winter statistic ......

98% OF AMERICANS SAY “OH D***” BEFORE GOING IN THE DITCH OFF A SLIPPERY ROAD.

THE OTHER 2% ARE FROM UPSTATE NY AND THEY SAY, 'HOLD MY BEER AND WATCH THIS'

A prayer to start the day!!

2009-01-28T09:41:00.003-05:00

Dear Lord, I thank You for this day,
I thank You for my being able to see
And to hear this morning.

I'm blessed because You are
A forgiving God and
An understanding God.

You have done so much for me
And You keep on blessing me.

Forgive me this day for everything
I have done, said or thought
That was not pleasing to you.

I ask now for Your forgiveness.
Please keep me safe
From all danger and harm.

Help me to start this day
With a new attitude and plenty of gratitude.

Let me make the best of each and every day
To clear my mind so that I can hear from You.

Please broaden my mind
That I can accept all things.

Let me not whine and whimper
Over things I have no control over.

And give me the best response
When I'm pushed beyond my limits.

I know that when I can't pray,
You listen to my heart.

Continue to use me to do Your will.
Continue to bless me that I may be
A blessing to others.

Keep me strong that I may help the weak....
Keep me uplifted that I may have
Words of encouragement for others.

I pray for those that are lost
And can't find their way.

I pray for those that are misjudged
And misunderstood.
I pray for those who
Don't know You intimately.

I pray for those that will delete this
Without sharing it with others
I pray for those that don't believe.

But I thank You that I believe
That You change people and
You change things.

I pray for all my sisters and brothers.
For each and every family member
In their households.

I pray for peace, love and joy
In their homes; that they are out of debt
And all their needs are met.

I pray that every eye that reads this
knows there is no problem, circumstance,
Or situation greater than You.

Every battle is in Your hands for You to fight.
I pray that these words be received
Into the hearts of every eye that sees it
In Jesus' name. Amen!

God Bless ! ! ! !

Quote of the day!!

2009-01-26T14:28:00.003-05:00

10 Success Commandments

2009-01-16T10:19:00.001-05:00

1. Stop sitting on your assets, gifts and talents. Procrastination is a thief. Tap into your creativity, purpose, imagination, intuition, network and resources.

2. Stop worrying. Action and faith speak louder than fear. Thou shall let go and let God.
(Therefore do not worry and be anxious.- Matthew 6:31)

3. Avoid distractions, impatience and clutter. Keep the main thing...the MAIN THING. Follow your list of things to do to remain focused, organized and productive.

4. Find a balance between encouraging and helping others in need and knowing when to distance yourself from "energy vampires" who drain you with their drama and negativity.

5. Do the math and count your blessings. Praise God in the good and the difficult times.

6. Develop the self-esteem and courage to say "no" or "yes" when it is appropriate and necessary.

7. Be a good listener and observer. Keep your eyes, ears, heart and mind open. Blessings and breakthroughs can show up in unexpected ways.

8. Build strong character. Serve others (family, community, employment) with integrity and best practices.

9. Continue to seek ways to grow in your education, faith, self-esteem, skills and personal growth.

10. Drink plenty of water, eat healthy foods, stretch/exercise and take good care of your body. Remain active. Remember a sense of humor is healthy. A daily "laughsitive." moves out joy-blockages i.e. toxins, stress, anger and fear.

Written by Jewel Diamond Taylor, an excerpt from her e-book, CD and keynote message entitled
"The Trampoline or Cement: The Art of Bouncing Back from Setbacks"

Hater / By Maya Angelou

2009-01-09T15:05:00.001-05:00

Hater/ By Maya Angelou

A hater is someone who is jealous and envious and spends all their time trying to make you look small so they can look tall. They are very negative people to say the least. Nothing is ever good enough!

When you make your mark, you will always attract some haters...

That's why you have to be careful with whom you share your blessings and your dreams, because some folk can't handle seeing you blessed...

It's dangerous to be like somebody else... If God wanted you to be like somebody else, He would have given you what He gave them! Right?

You never know what people have gone through to get what they have...

The problem I have with haters is that they see my glory, but they don't know my story...

If the grass looks greener on the other side of the fence, you can rest assured that the water bill is higher there too!

We've all got some haters among us!

Some people envy you because you can:
a) Have a relationship with God
b) Light up a room when you walk in
c) Start your own business
d) Tell a man / woman to hit the curb (if he / she isn't about the right thing)
e) Raise your children without both parents being in the home

Haters can't stand to see you happy.
Haters will never want to see you succeed.
Most of our haters are people who are supposed to be on our side.

How do you handle your undercover haters?

You can handle these haters by:

1. Knowing who you are & who your true friends are *(VERY IMPORTANT!!)

2. Having a purpose to your life: Purpose does not mean having a job. You can have a job and still be unfulfilled.

A purpose is having a clear sense of what God has called you to be. Your purpose is not defined by what others think about you.

3. By remembering what you have is by divine prerogative and not human manipulation.

Fulfill your dreams! You only have one life to live...when its your time to leave this earth, you 'want' to be able to say, 'I've lived my life and fulfilled 'my' dreams,... Now I'm ready to go HOME!

When God gives you favor, you can tell your haters, 'Don't look at me...Look at Who is in charge of me...'

Watch out for Haters... BUT most of all don't become a HATER!

'A woman's heart should be so hidden in Christ that a man should have to seek Him first to find her.'

Maya Angelou

God's trying to get my attention.....

2008-12-23T08:55:00.004-05:00

I have had a interested 2 days...

Sunday: I put something that was on my heart on God's alter. Sunday service was very moving for me and I had a good cry! (I needed it)

Monday: He revealed what I needed to see regarding that situation. I had major decisions to make and I did what was needed to be done. I have had a 'season' with these people. It was fun while it lasted but in the end, it was in MY best interest to part ways. I value friendship when it's apparent others don't. Therefore all of them were CUT OFF. I will still have cordial relationships, but as far as friendships that is OVER.

Today: I get up and read my emails around 5am. I get about 300 a day easily. Most I skip over but this one for some reason got my attention (as I don't always read the ones from this particular writer).

This was on point: I need the Peace of God in my life.... I feel out of balance and I need to focus on ME (and HIM) to get MYSELF together. I am truly a work in progress.

I must thank my Prayer Warriors & 'Keepers' out there. It is good to know y'all got my back...

2008/12/23

Christmas Brings the Peace of God
by Rick Warren

You will experience God’s peace, which is far more wonderful than the human mind can understand. His peace will guard your hearts and minds in Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:6 (NLT)

*** *** *** ***
Once you make peace with God, that’s spiritual peace, then you get the peace of God in your heart and that’s emotional peace.

This is the one you really need for daily living. The peace of God happens in your heart when you’ve made peace with God. All of a sudden, the stress in your life goes down. You’re not as angry as you used to be. Things don’t bother you as much. You’re a lot more patient. You’re filled with a lot more love and peace.

Why? Because once you have peace with God, you have the peace of God in your heart.
The Bible says, “Don’t worry about anything. Instead pray about everything” (Philippians 4:6 NLT).
You have two choices in life: You can pray or panic, worship or worry. Those are your choices.

Worry has never solved a single one of your problems. If you prayed as much as you worry, you would have a lot less to worry about! Prayer can change things. That’s why the Bible says, “Don’t worry. Pray!”

“Pray about everything. Tell God what you need. Thank him for all that he’s done. [And if you do this] You will experience God’s peace, which is far more wonderful than the human mind can understand. His peace will guard your hearts and minds in Christ Jesus” (Philippians 4:6 NLT).

© 2008 Purpose Driven Life. All rights reserved

Will I Ever???

2008-12-18T10:21:00.005-05:00

This song is deep.... And as a single woman it makes you think: Will I ever fall in love? Again?

Will I Ever

by Lyfe Jennings

[Verse 1:]
Does it feel like ya
You're never gonna find it
Does it feel like ya
Always one step behind it
Does it feel like ya
Out in this world alone 'cause you been lookin and prayin for love so long
Does it feel like ya
Wishing on a falling star
Does it feel like ya
Lonely and it breaks your heart
'Cause it feels like ya
Ready to let down your guard
Finding somebdy's just so hard

[Pre-Chorus:]
How do you find the one you dream about (how do u find it yeah)
If I knew I'd tell you how (swear to God swear to God)
It's kinda hard for me to figure out (and I know you're ready to settle down)
I know you're ready to settle down
If there's a God above please tell me

[Chorus:]
Tell me will I ever fall in love
Will I be alone forever
Will I ever fall in love
Or will I be alone forever

[Verse 2:]
Does it feel like ya
Moving too fast
Does it feel like ya
Want something you can't have
Does it feel like ya
Living in the past
And the thought of going home alone again makes you sad
Does it feel like ya
Feeling so bad
Does it feel like ya
Getting so mad
'Cause it feels like ya
Just want someone to call
To tell ya that you're human after all

[PreChorus]

[Chorus]

[Bridge:]
To fall in love (I would do anything, anything)
To fall in love
To fall in love, love, love, love
To fall in love
To fall in love

[Chorus x2]

Quote of the Day!

2008-12-16T14:24:00.004-05:00

This should be THE quote of the century!

"Whatever you give a woman, she's going to multiply. If you give her sperm, she'll give you a baby. If you give her a house, she'll give you a home. If you give her groceries, she'll give you a meal. If you give her a smile, she'll give you her heart. She multiplies and enlarges what is given to her. So - if you give her any crap, you will receive a ton of sh*t."

Love and appreciate all the women in your life.

Everyone Can't Be in Your Front Row

2008-12-15T10:27:00.001-05:00

Everyone Can't Be in Your Front Row

Life is a theater - invite your audience carefully.

Not everyone is spiritually healthy and mature enough to have a front
row seat in our lives. There are some people in your life that need
to be loved from a distance.

It's amazing what you can accomplish when you let go,
or at least minimize your time with draining, negative,
incompatible, not-going-anywhere relationships/friendships/fellowships!

Observe the relationships around you. Pay attention
to: Which ones lift and which ones lean? Which ones encourage and
which ones discourage? Which ones are on a path of growth uphill
and which ones are going downhill?

When you leave certain people, do you feel better or feel worse?

Which ones always have drama or don't really understand, know and
appreciate you and the gift that lies within you?

When you seek growth, peace of mind, love and truth, the easier it
will become for you to decide who gets to sit in the FRONT ROW and
who should be moved to the balcony of your life.

You cannot change the people around you...but you can
change the people you are around! Ask God for godly wisdom and
discernment and choose wisely the people who sit in the front row
of your life.

"Just because no one has shown up who can love you on your level,
doesn't mean you sink to theirs!"

There are 4 ways to make 1 million dollars....

2008-11-29T16:35:00.004-05:00

Luck. Patience. Skill. Risk.

Let's break each one down:

Luck=Lottery
Patience=Investing for the long term
Skill=Have a Business
Risk= Leverage, Real Estate

It's Time to Believe Again

2008-11-21T11:16:00.003-05:00

It's Time to Believe Again

It’s time to believe again. You may have situations that look like they’re set in stone, but everything you’re facing is subject to change. It is not over until God says it is over. Even if you’ve been praying for a situation for ten or thirty years, God is still at work and has an answer. We shouldn’t accept the difficult situations in our lives or unanswered prayers as permanent. Despite what’s going on externally, no matter how long things have been the way they are, decide to hope and believe in God. In the natural, things may look the same, but the scripture says in Philippians 2:13 that God is constantly at work in those who believe.

We need to have the attitude that we are not moved by what we see, but we are moved by what we know. We know is that the Creator of universe is at work in those who believe in His resurrecting power. Do you believe in the power of Almighty God? If you’ll remember how big God is and view every difficult situation as temporary, you will come to a new season of peace, faith and hope. God is always at work in those who believe!

Changes you can make

2008-10-08T17:01:00.001-04:00

(Borrowed... lol)

One of the strongest memories I have from my childhood comes from when I was about seven years old. We were visiting my grandmother and I walked in on her praying out loud. She was hunched over with her hands closed and her back to me, but I remember her prayer - it still rings in my ear in her soft voice, more than two decades later.

God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.

As an adult, I now recognize the prayer as the Serenity Prayer, quoted and used in countless contexts, but still familiar to me in the soft voice of my grandmother, overheard on a cool spring morning.

Even outside of the religious context, it’s a powerful piece of wisdom for people to live their life by. There are some things in life you cannot change, no matter how stubbornly you wish to change it, while at the same time, there are many, many things you can change.

It becomes particularly powerful when you apply that filter to the difficult areas of your life - where you’re having trouble. I’ll walk through some of my deepest personal challenges, to show you what I mean.

I cannot change the stupid spending mistakes I made in the past. I spent money in countless incredibly stupid and immature ways and that added up to a debt that took me years to take care of. I can’t help but wonder where I might have been had I not made those mistakes.

I can change my spending habits going forward. Right now I can make the right choice, even though I made bad choices before. I don’t have to go out there and spend money on stuff I don’t really need. Instead, I can save it for the things that really matter.

I cannot change my hypothyroidism. It reduces my overall energy level compared to a truly normal person, period. No matter what I do in life, I can’t change that. Even taking a daily Synthroid won’t help.

I can change my exercise habits. In the end, it’s still up to me to push myself out of that chair and get some exercise in. My choice to exercise might be a bit tougher choice for me than for others, but it’s still a choice, and I have the power to make the right one.

I cannot change the amount I owe on my mortgage. I owe a lot of money on my home, no two ways about it. Sometimes, thinking about the amount simply inspires awe in me.

I can change the effort I put forth into repaying it. I can directly repay it if that seems like a better investment, or invest extra funds if I can beat the rate of return on early mortgage payments. I don’t have to be trapped for the remaining twenty nine years of a thirty year mortgage unless I choose to be.

I cannot change my wife’s energy level in the evenings. My wife gets up before I do and is often really tired in the evenings, drifting off to sleep far earlier than I do. I often am up for a good hour or two while she sleeps, and I wish it weren’t so.

I can change how I spend my time in the evenings. I can spend as much time with her as I can until she goes to sleep, then focus on getting mindless household tasks done. This enables both of us to spend more time with our children - and more time with each other.

I cannot change the people I’ve let down in the past. I’ve let friendships and other connections fall apart due to lack of attention and effort to maintain them, not realizing I’m losing friends until they’re already gone.

I can change my relationships with people now and in the future. Good relationships need some regular care and maintenance, and it’s up to me to do that. Each day, I can make that choice to get in touch with a family member or friend, just to see what they’re up to and if we can help each other through life.

Today, spend some time looking at the hard areas in your life and see if you can find a piece that you can change. It might be as simple as changing a small spending habit, or it might be as big as finally realizing you need help with substance abuse. Making a change for the better in any part of your life that is dragging you down is the surest way to financial and personal success.

Joke of the Day

2008-09-16T15:42:00.002-04:00

Some of my friends have nothing better to do but send me emails... (Thanks Maria lol) This one still have me laughing over here ha ha ha!

Relationship Info (Married or Singles)

2008-09-03T16:09:00.001-04:00

If you're not married yet, share this with a friend. If you are married, share it with your spouse or other married couples and reflect on it. An African proverb states, 'Before you get married, keep both eyes open, and after you marry, close one eye.'

Before you get involved and make a commitment to someone, don't let lust, desperation, immaturity, ignorance, pressure from others or a low self-esteem, make you blind to warning signs. Keep your eyes open, and don't fool yourself that you can change someone or that what you see as faults aren't really important. Once you decide to commit to someone, over time his or her flaws, vulnerable-abilities, pet peeves, and differences will become more obvious.

If you love your mate and want the relationship to grow and evolve, you've got to learn to close one eye and not let every little thing bother you.You and your mate have many different expectations, emotional needs, values, dreams, weaknesses, and strengths. You are two unique individual children of God who have decided to share a life together. Neither of you are perfect, but are you perfect for each other? Do you bring out the best in each other?

Do you compliment and compromise with each other, or do you compete, compare, and control? What do you bring to the relationship? Do you bring past relationships, past hurt, past mistrust, past pain? You can't take someone to the altar to alter him or her. You can't make someone love you or make someone stay. If you develop self-esteem, spiritual discernment, and 'a life', you won't find yourself making someone else responsible for your happiness or responsible for your pain.

Manipulation, control, jealousy, neediness, and selfishness are not the ingredients of a thriving, healthy, loving and lasting relationship! Seeking status, sex, wealth, and security are the wrong reasons to be in a relationship. What keeps a relationship strong? Communication, intimacy, trust, a sense of humor, sharing household tasks, some getaway time without business or children and daily exchanges (a meal, shared activity, a hug, a call, a touch, a note).

Leave a nice message on the voice mail or send a nice email. Sharing common goals and interests. Growth is important. Grow together, not away from each other, giving each other space to grow without feeling insecure. Allow your mate to have outside interest. You can't always be together. Give each other a sense of belonging and assurances of commitment. Don't try to control one another. Learn each other's family situation. Respect his or her parents regardless.

Don't put pressure on each other for material goods. Remember for richer or for poorer. If these qualities are missing, the relationship will erode as resentment, withdrawal, abuse, neglect, dishonesty, and pain replace the passion.

The difference between 'United' and 'Untied' is where you put the I.

FOCUS ON YOUR SOUL

2008-08-21T14:55:00.001-04:00

If you truly want to break through your addiction to mediocrity, your recovery must be spiritual. It doesn't necessarily involve going to church. That is good, but without a personal relationship with God, churchgoing is empty. Focus on what your soul hungers and thirsts for: to relate to God. God bless you as you pass on this message of hope to others. Bishop TD Jakes

My prayer for you today;

(1) You will find favour with someone you don't expect ...Amen.
(2) You will be too relevant to be ignored,.............Amen.
(3) You will encounter GOD and will never remain the same,..........Amen.
(4) The grace for completion will come on you, you shall be blessed till the blessed call you blessed,...........Amen.
(5) The hand that will send this message to others shall not labour in vain,.........Amen
(6) The mouth saying ''Amen'' to this prayer shall laugh forever,...........Amen.

Very Very soon and I say Very Very Very soon, GOD is going to do a miracle and lift u up 4 GOOD.

Words of Wisdom for Today

2008-08-19T08:47:00.007-04:00

Dear GOD,

The lady reading this is Beautiful, Classy, STRONG and I LUV HER.

Help her live her Life to the Fullest. Please promote her and cause her to excel above expectations.Help her to shine in darkest places and love where it is impossible to love.

Send to all the ladies u love. I just did.

Enjoy your day!!

Is your hut on fire? Today mines was smokin'...

2008-08-17T20:21:00.005-04:00

The only survivor of a shipwreck was washed up on a small, uninhabited island. He prayed feverishly for God to rescue him. Every day he scanned the horizon for help, but none seemed forthcoming. Exhausted, he eventually managed to build a little hut out of driftwood to protect him from the elements, and to store his few possessions. One day, after scavenging for food, he arrived home to find his little hut in flames, with smoke rolling up to the sky. He felt the worst had happened, and everything was lost. He was stunned with disbelief, grief, and anger. He cried out, "God! How could you do this to me?" Early the next day, he was awakened by the sound of a ship approaching the island! It had come to rescue him! "How did you know I was here?" asked the weary man of his rescuers. "We saw your smoke signal," they replied.

The Moral of This Story:
It's easy to get discouraged when things are going bad, but we shouldn't lose heart, because God is at work in our lives, even in the midst of our pain and suffering. Remember that the next time your little hut seems to be burning to the ground. It just may be a smoke signal that summons the Grace of God.

** I was reading an email and came across this scripture and decided to add this to my blog post: "And it shall come to pass in that day, that his burden shall be taken away from off thy shoulder, and his yoke from off thy neck, and the yoke shall be destroyed because of the anointing" (Isaiah 10:27).

P.S. You may want to consider passing this on, because you never know who feels as if their hut is on fire today or like mines... smokin'....

My Girl Jennifer!!

2008-08-14T22:10:00.003-04:00

Someone sent me a email full of Jennifer pictures.

These two happen to be my favorite out of the bunch.

She is working it!!

A Thought for today...

2008-08-12T12:05:00.000-04:00

When we react to something, we are tapping into our animal nature. As far as we know, animals are not able to access that split second before a response. Their desires are compulsive, and their reactions are as well; they go for the instant gratification.

When we pause first or restrict our response, however, we are tapping into our God nature. We are choosing to no longer be the effect of our desire. Instead, we are choosing to be the cause.

Restriction, by the way, doesn't mean that we won't decide to satiate that desire after all. It just means that we pause and make a conscious decision.

Today, do whatever it is you do. Just make sure you're doing it by choice, not habit.

Is He/She the One... THE RIGHT ONE?

2008-08-05T15:10:00.003-04:00

Is HE/SHE the ONE? THE RIGHT ONE?

First we must allow our Heavenly Father to do the picking. And second, the decision for a mate must be made on a spiritual and intellectual basis before it's made on an emotional one.

"What about love? Shouldn't that be the third?" you ask. No, and I'll tell you why.

"The heart is deceitful above all things and beyond cure. Who can understand it? (Jeremiah 17:9).

The heart is willful and is driven by its own agenda. It does not consider things rationally and intelligently it just loves to love! Therefore you have to point it in the right direction: "Above all else, guard your heart, for it is the wellspring of life" (Proverbs 4:23).

Whenever you meet a man, you need to get clearance from God, check out his attributes, and then allow your heart to engage.

Dating exists not for mating ; it exists for collecting data. I believe that the biblical design would be friendship, courtship and then marriage. Friendship is two people walking together in agreement and accountability, learning and growing together. Courtship follows the mutual agreement to commit to one another exclusively - it is the decisive turning toward the agreed-upon goal of the marriage altar. It is a period of laying a foundation and preparing your life together after marriage.

But dating? Well, if you do date, use the time wisely to gather these facts.

1. Check out the fabric. Is the person mate material? Does this man have an intimate relationship with the Father through Jesus Christ? Does he care what God thinks about his behavior? Is he accountable to God as well as another co-laborer in the faith? Accountability is an important factor. It is imperative to maintaining a committed relationship. Is your potential spouse a member of the same family - the family of God?

You need to have common interests and values and agree on the essentials of living day to day. You have a similar spiritual walk. You eat the same spiritual diet. You enjoy a lot of similar things. You have like interests, like goals in life, like opinions on basic life issues. You have had like experiences in your background. Though there is some truth to the idiom that opposites attract, like-minded folks fare better together.

Furthermore, does he want to get married? If you want to be married and your dreamboat isn't interested, don't waste your time.

Remember, women fall in love and get married. Men decide to get married and then look for a wife. Note the difference in order. So if a guy says he's not looking for anything serious, take his words seriously. If he's not going in your direction, get off the bus and wait for the right one.

2. Does this man want you? Is he pursuing you? The man who is right for you will pursue you, and God's hand in the relationship will be clear. No guessing, no fleeces, no dead ends.

Scripture says: "He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the Lord" (Proverbs 18:22). Note - who finds whom? THE MAN FINDS THE WIFE. From the beginning of time, God has transported men and women across the world in order to put them together.

At the RIGHT TIME, He will bring that man on the scene and he will find you. In God's perfect design, the man is the one who recognizes his mate. Adam has no problem recognizing that Eve was his missing rib. You do not need to strategically place yourself anywhere. You don't have to help a guy out because he's shy!

Men will do whatever they have to do to get what they truly want. The man in your life should recognize you as the pearl of great price in his life and be willing to do whatever he must in order to gain your hand. If he is passive about gaining your affections, take it as a sign that he is not interested.

Many a woman's mother has suggested that it is a good idea to marry a man who loves you more than you love him. As cold as that sounds, it actually might be scriptural if you stop to think about it: "We love him because he first loved us" (1 John 4:19). Until then, take the ultimate chill pill. You don't need a bunch of men in your life to make you feel all right about yourself.

You need only one man - your man, the one God has selected to select you. And trust me, the right man at the wrong time can be just as awful as the wrong man at any time. So trust God's timing in this. He is the ultimate matchmaker. Relax, sit pretty and allow yourself to be found. Again - WAIT until the man voices his intentions. He should take the lead in establishing the relationship. You may have an inkling that he is the one, but God will use the man to set the tone of the relationship. Allow him the opportunity to woo you - this is your first act of submission. J esus set the standard for all men to follow. They should love us first. And they should lead the relationship.

3. The man in your life should not desire to move into your house, only into your heart. A man who prepares for your future has made his intentions clear. A man who is husband material has the means to take care of a wife. He is a responsible human being who understands he needs to have something to offer. In short, a man should have the means to be a suitable lover for you.

4. Check out his buddies. Everyone knows birds of the same feather flock together, yet most women fail to see the connection between a man and his friends. A man's pals tell you a lot about the person that you haven't seen yet. They reveal things about the guy's character that might be hidden when he is on good behavior. Everyone knows how to put his best foot forward. Don't stay focused on the foot, check out the rest of the body!

5. Check out his relationship with his mother. How does he treat her? This is your preview of how he will treat you. There are lots of men who, because of a negative relationship with their mothers, really don't like women, yet say they do. Unresolved issues between mother and son continue between husband and wife.

6. Remember that a man's family reveals the cloth from which he's cut. Take note and decide whether you want your future with the man in your life to look like his present family situation.

7. Check out the patterns of his life. Do you see repeated cycles of drama in his personal kingdom? Broken relationships? Problems in making commitments --including the job market? Mood swings? Is a problem always someone else's fault? Does he embrace responsibility or shirk it? Does he keep his promises? Is he a man of good reputation? Remember all garments look wonderful hanging in the store, but with wear, some begin to unravel. Give yourself time and space to check out the man in your life. Time will always reveal whether or not he is made of the right stuff.

8. Does this man have a vision for his life? Is he running with that vision? Remember, God decided Adam needed help once Adam got busy DOING his assignment. As we saw Adam, a man doesn 't need help until he is busy doing what he was created and called to do. Is the man in your life guided by sense of destiny and purpose, or does he just allow life to happen around him? A man who is not certain of his mission can be a most miserable person - and you'll be miserable too if you know where YOU want to go in life.

A man who has vision is not intimidated by a woman whose mission statement is clear. He will be your best ally, cheerleader and assistant because he wants you both to make it! A man who cannot be supportive of your achievements because he is floundering in a sea of uncertainty over his own life is not a healthy partner to have and to hold forever.

Creating dependencies or feelings of obligation is not the way to get the best out of your man. Somewhere along the way, he will resent you and flee from the smothering burden of obligation he associates you with. You want a man who is firmly anchored in his identity in Christ. Remember, we are looking for a man who will be priest and leader of his home. His first instinct should be to want to cover you, redeem you, and provide for you. Your job is to decide if this is the man God has ordained for you to complement.

9. Complimentary. Do your talents and gifts complement his? Do his gifts, compliment yours? What about your temperaments? Do you see the two of you as an effective team capable of bringing blessing to the lives of those around you? Do your futures mesh? Can you coordinate your gifts in an attractive and effective way?

This is why knowing your purpose is so important. Make sure your hearts beat for mutual causes. When I go shopping I always consider the fabric, the fit and what I already have in my closet. Will my next purchase be a complimentary addition to what I already have? If I find that I am going to have to buy shoes and matching accessories to go with a new outfit, I leave it right on the rack. It is too expensive a proposition.. If the man you meet makes you feel that you need to completely reinvent yourself, something is wrong.

This is where I ask you to consider the relationship in terms of cost. Is this relationship expensive spiritually, emotional or physically? Does your longing for a mate make you willing to forfeit who you are in the process? Or does he see you as the gift that you are? The man in your life should consider you a rare find, a priceless jewel-because of you he is getting ready to get blessed big-time! Any relationship that causes you to feel unworthy, unlovely, unacceptable, undesirable or that you have to work for love, is too expensive!

God has called the man to cover, protect and provide not only materially for a woman, but emotionally and spiritually as well. You should be richer in mind, body and spirit for your union with the man of your dreams. The man in your life should make rich deposits into your heart and spirit, not withdrawals.

10. Does he have a healthy love and acceptance of himself? Make sure the man in your life has taken time to heal from past relationships and has made peace with himself. How he cares for himself is how he will care for you.

A man's relationship with God is crucial here.. His love for himself will only be as strong as his love for God. This is not something that you can impart. You cannot be his savior or teacher. That is out of spiritual order. In his rightful place as your personal priest, he should be leading you to a richer relationship with Christ.

If he is causing you to compromise your faith and destabilize your walk, if he is leading you into sexual sin or causing you to be distracted from your commitment to God, the relationship is too expensive. Offending the Lover of your soul, who promises you eternal love, is too high a fare to pay for a ride that has a limited run. If you and your man can't soar in the Spirit, when the force of your love for another is tested by the pull or gravity of the world, your union will not be able to survive.

So you decide. How much is your life worth? How much is your love worth? You will be able to accept only what you believe you deserve. God himself calculated the worth of your love and decided it was worth His life. He now pledges you His love for eternity. Yes, Jesus sets the example for all others to follow when He paid a ransom for His bride. Should you expect less from a mortal man? Throughout the Biblical age, men were willing to pay the cost for what they truly desired. The truth of the matter is, everyone knows that anything worth having, costs and no one gets a ride in this life for free.

Our prayer:
Dear Heavenly Mother/Father, God
I confess that I have not always been as careful as I should've been with my heart. From time to time, my desire for love has caused me to leave my heart in the wrong hands. I now commit my heart into Your hands for safekeeping. Please help me to stop being so impulsive with what you deem so precious. As I learn to celebrate Your love for me, let me learn from Your example what a bridegroom should really be like. Help me to never settle for less than what you desire for me. As I embrace You as the Lover of my soul, keep my affections in the haven of Your own heart. As I rest in Your love, make me more discriminating of those who approach me.

I ask that You take over this area of my life.. Keep me from those You know would hurt my heart. I invite You to set a hedge around me and keep me from all who would draw me into unfruitful relationships until the day you present me to the mate that You have selected for me.. Grant me the discernment to recognize him as he recognizes me. Cleanse me from the temptation to typecast the men I meet according to what I see. Help me to t rust in Your knowledge and lean not on my own understanding. I know that You know what is best for me; therefore I yield to Your choice. In Jesus Name. Amen.

Ladies this is something you should definitely share with a friend, whether you are single or married... It is something to think about, When you ask is "He" the one!

The Man I Desire Has Got To:

2008-06-24T16:59:00.003-04:00

** This came across my desk today... what do you think about this list? Any additions/deletions??

The Man I Desire Has Got To:

Love, honor and have a relationship with God
Love, respect and support the women in his life
Have a stable career
Manage his money responsibly
Love music
Be committed to uplifting the community
Be secure with himself... his success, his failures, his shortcomings
Want children or take care of the children he already has
Be mentally stable with a normal dose of psychosis (hey, we're all crazy at some point in our lives!)
Honest, open and expressive communicator
A man who I can trust and share my past, my failures and my joys with
A man who knows how to lead and isn't afraid to be the head
A man who shies away from asking a woman for money
A man who knows that I love , Friends, Girlfriends, The Food Network, reality tv, musicals, good books, good wine my yahoogroups and leaves me alone when I want to indulge
A man who is comfortable enough with himself to share his innermost secrets
A man who is well-versed in literature, religion and politics
A man who shares my love of music, literature, social scenes, movies
A man who has a positive attitude about himself and about life in general
A man who I can physically and emotionally rely upon (if need be) - I want to be able to seek him first and not my daddy to fix things or my girlfriends for support...
A man who knows that I am an observer and a lover of beautiful things yet secure and knows that he's the only one that I want

Closed Doors

2008-06-19T12:01:00.003-04:00

We need to learn to thank the Lord for closed doors just as

much as we do for open doors. The reason God closes doors

is because He has not prepared anything over there for us.

If he didn't close the wrong door we would never find our

way to the right door. Even when we don't realize it, God

directs our paths through the closing and opening of doors.

When one door closes, it forces us to change our course.

Another door closes; it forces us to change our course

yet again.

Then finally, we find the open door and walk right into

our blessing. But instead of praising God for the closed

door (which kept us out of trouble), we get upset because

we "judge by the appearances." And in our own arrogance,

or ignorance, we insist that we know what is right. We

have a very present help in the time of need who is always
standing guard.

Because He walks ahead of us, He can see trouble down

the road and HE sets up road blocks and detours accordingly.

But through our lack of wisdom we try to tear down the

roadblocks or push aside the detour signs. Then the minute

we get into trouble, we start crying "Lord how could this

happen to me?"

We have got to realize that the closed door was a blessing.

Didn't He say that "No good thing will He withhold from

them that love Him?" If you get terminated from your job -

don't be down, instead thank God for the new opportunities

that will manifest themselves - it might be a better job, or

an opportunity to go to school. If that man or woman
won't return your call - it might not be them, it might be

the Lord setting up a roadblock (just let it go).

One time a person had a bank he had been doing business

with for many years tell him "NO" for a $10,000 loan. The

Lord led him to call another bank. That bank approved a

$40,000 loan for him at a lower interest rate than his own

bank had advertised.

I'm so grateful, for the many times God has closed doors to

me, just to open them in the most unexpected places. "The

steps of a good man are ordered by the Lord, and He delights

in his way." (Psalms 37:23)

The Mountain top is glorious, but it is in the Valley that I will grow!
Thank God for open and closed doors.... Amen

Always Remember God gives you...

Enough Happiness to keep you Sweet
Enough Trials to keep you Strong
Enough Sorrows to keep you Human
Enough Hope to keep you Happy
Enough Failure to keep you Humble
Enough Success to keep you Eager
Enough Friends to give you Comfort
Enough Wealth to meet your Needs
Enough Enthusiasm to make you???? look forward
Enough Faith to banish depression,
Enough Determination to make each day a better day than the last.

Life must be lived forward but can only be understood backwards.

Commit to the Lord in whatever you do and your plans will succeed.
(Proverbs 16:3)

If you love God, share this and He will continue to open and close
doors for you.

One Thing To Never Forget

2008-06-18T10:54:00.004-04:00

This hits so close to home for me these days..... I hope you enjoy it as much as I did :)

Your presence, is a present to the world.
You're unique and one of a kind.
Your life can be, what you want it to be.
Take the days, just one at a time.
Count your blessings, not your troubles.
You'll make it through, whatever comes along.
Within you, are so many answers.
Understand, have courage, be strong.
Don't put limits on yourself.
So many dreams, are waiting to be realized.
Decisions are too important, to leave to chance.
Reach for your peak, your goal and your prize.
Nothing wastes more energy, than worrying.
The longer one carries a problem, the heavier it gets.
Don't take things too seriously.
Live a life of serenity, not a life of regrets.
Remember, that a little love goes a long way.
Remember, that a lot of love goes forever.
Remember, that friendship is a wise investment.
Life's treasures, are people... together.
Realize, that it's never too late.
Do ordinary things, in a extraordinary way.
Have health, hope and happiness.
Take the time, to wish upon a star.
And don't ever forget....
For even a day....
How very special you are.
-- Author Unknown

I Believe

2008-06-16T10:36:00.001-04:00

I Believe

I believe- that our background and circumstances
may have influenced who we are, but we are responsible
for who we become.

I believe- that no matter how good a friend is,
they're going to hurt you every once in a while
and you must forgive them for that.

I believe- that just because someone doesn't love
you the way you want them to doesn't mean they don't
love you with all they have.

I believe- that true friendship continues to grow,
even over the longest distance. Same goes for true love.

I believe- that it's taking me a long time to become
the person I want to be.

I believe- that you should always leave loved ones
with loving words. It may be the last time you see
them.

I believe- that you can keep going, long after you
can't.

I believe- that we are responsible for what we do,
no matter how we feel.

I believe- that either you control your attitude
or it controls you.

I believe- that heroes are the people who do what
has to be done when it needs to be done, regardless of
the consequences.

I believe- that money is a lousy way of keeping
score.

I believe- that my best friend and I can do anything
or nothing and have the best time.

I believe- that sometimes the people you expect to
kick you when you're down, will be the ones to
help you get back up.

I believe- that sometimes when I'm angry I have
the right to be angry, but that doesn't give me the
right to be cruel.

I believe- that maturity has more to do with what
types of experiences you've had and what you've
learned from them and less to do with how many
birthdays you've celebrated.

I believe- that it isn't always enough to be forgiven
by others. Sometimes you have to learn to forgive
yourself.

I believe- that no matter how bad your heart is
broken the world doesn't stop for your grief.

I believe- that just because two people argue, it
doesn't mean they don't love each other And just
because they don't argue, it doesn't mean they do.

I believe- that you shouldn't be so eager to find
out a secret. It could change your life forever.

I believe- that two people can look at the exact
same thing and see something totally different.

I believe- that your life can be changed in a
matter of hours by people who don't even know you.

I believe- that even when you think you have no
more to give, when a friend cries out to you, you will
find the strength to help.

I believe- that credentials on the wall do not make
you a decent human being.

I believe- that the people you care about most in
life are taken from you too soon.
I BELIEVE IN YOU!!!

'THE POWER OF PRAYER. I believe that God only gives three answers to prayer: 1. "Yes!" , 2. "Not yet." , 3. "I have something better in mind."

A YOUNG BLACK WOMAN'S GUIDE TO SURVIVAL

2008-05-30T15:53:00.002-04:00

10 THINGS YOUR MOTHER SHOULD HAVE TOLD YOU
Written by: Dana Orr,

10. BE SELECTIVE IN FRIENDSHIPS.

Friendship is not charity, it's a give-and-take relationship. Your friends should be people you love, admire and respect. Don't be afraid to expand, or change your circle of friends. As you get older, you may head in a different direction than those you once considered your 'best friends forever'. As you evolve and mature, you may grow apart from friends who no longer fulfill you - it's ok! Hold this person in your heart, but be true to yourself when devoting time, energy and emotion to anyone you seriously consider a 'friend'.

9. RE-INVENT YOURSELF WHEN NECESSARY.

Self-reinvention is a way to constantly reflect and assess your goals and priorities in your personal, academic and professional life. The concept of self-reinvention allows you to reconsider your lifestyle and, at any given moment, change a particular course of action. The beauty of this process is that you don't have to beat yourself up about behaviour you consider undesirable. You should actually feel great that you have enough sense to realize the error of your ways (whatever they may be), and can spontaneously commit to change. Congratulations - you just solved a problem!

8. PROTECT YOURSELF.

HIV/AIDS is the #1 killer of black women ages 19-27 in America . You are not corny or lame if you insist on an HIV test before having sex with someone. In fact, you're stupid to give up responsibility for your health and put your life in someone else's hands. Please DO NOT FALL FOR the age-old trick: 'Look at me - what am I supposed to do now?!' All men masturbate. Politely tell your partner that he should focus on 'self- love' until you're certain that he deserves to enter your temple.

7. JEALOUSY IS A WASTED EMOTION.

People who love themselves and recognize their worth are unable to be jealous of others. Why? You should be so preoccupied with loving yourself and changing what you don't like, you have no time to worry about what others are doing. Being jealous of someone is a waste of energy. You cannot control other people and the choices they make, or the luck they have. Weak people let other's circumstances affect their self-love and/or self-worth. Resist the temptation to be envious, as it will get you nowhere. If anything, let other people motivate you to achieve certain goals for yourself.

6. CARRY YOURSELF LIKE A LADY.

Embrace that which makes you a woman, and by all means, take advantage of the privileges that we have. Force men around you to treat you with the respect they would their mother, aunt or sister. Insist that your doors be opened for you, order your food first in a restaurant, and sit in the front seat if you are the only female in the car. There is nothing wrong with being 'pleasantly demanding'. Along with the privilege of womanhood comes a certain responsibility. Being a true 'lady' means you exhibit manners that would make your grandmother proud, your clothes are tasteful and appropriate for your age, and your hair and nails are always clean. These little things make a big difference in n how you are viewed by outsiders, and the quality of men that you attract.

5. KEEP UP WITH CURRENT EVENTS.

Staying in touch with what's going on in the world is very important. Not only is it important to be aware of national and global issues, it makes you a lot more interesting to others because you always have something to talk about. It doesn't take much to watch the news, read the newspaper online, or buy an issue of TIME magazine or Newsweek. Don't forget - parents and teachers are a great source of information on current events, and would love to have a conversation with you about something 'serious'.

4. Travel.

Do you have a passport? If not, get one. Before you are saddled with the responsibilities of a job and a family, take advantage of your freedom and travel. Instead of buying a new outfit, buy a plane ticket. See other parts of the world and observe other cultures. More importantly, have fun! Plan a trip with a friend to a social event in another city, a beach on an island, or a city in a foreign country. Capture your memories with photos or in a diary (or a blog). You will cherish them forever.

3. Be Proud To Be Black.

Black culture and heritage is based on strength, perseverance, and rich talents. You should have an overwhelming sense of cultural pride - as black people, we are so very special. Don't EVER feel as if you aren't equal to another person simply because you're black. If you have any question as to the importance of black people to our society, or how smart, beautiful, talented, funny and fascinating we are, start reading. Watch old movies. Read plays. Go see plays. Buy tickets for dance and musical performances. Seek opportunities to study academic topics involving, or related to, black people. Talk to your relatives that lived through some of the historical events you've heard about. Get on the Internet and study people with whom you're familiar. Keep in mind, black pride doesn't mean exclusion of others. It is most impressive when you seek to educate other cultures about the beauty and greatness of being black.

2. Have a Cause.

As long as you're here, it is your duty as a human being to help make the world a better place. Let your natural talents and passion lead you to an issue that keeps your attention, and to which you can commit your time and money. Get involved with groups that already exist. If your particular cause is new or unique, start your own group and make your friends join. Helping others is an easy way to feel good about yourself, and invest in the future of your community.

1. Love Yourself.

This is #1 and most important, yet challenging, mission to accomplish. Self-love is critical to survival at any age, and may be quite a personal journey. Loving yourself means recognizing, developing and honouring a sense of self-worth. Loving yourself means you have zero tolerance for anyone or anything that doesn't love you and respect you. Loving yourself also means you must treat yourself well, simply because no one else will do it for you

I Think This Applies To You

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I Think This Applies To You

A good woman is proud of herself. She respects herself and others. She is aware of who she is. She neither seeks definition from the person she is with, nor does she expect them to read her mind. She is quite capable of articulating her needs. A good woman is hopeful. She is strong enough to make all her dreams come true. She knows love, therefore she gives love. She recognizes that her love has great value and must be reciprocated. If her love is taken for granted, it soon disappears. A good woman has a dash of inspiration, a dabble of endurance. She knows that she will, at times, have to inspire others to reach their God given potentials.

A good woman knows her past, understands her present and moves toward the future.

A good woman knows God. She knows that in God, the world can be her playground, but without God she will just be played. A good woman does not live in fear of the future because of her past. Instead, she understands that her life experiences are merely lessons, meant to bring her closer to self knowledge and unconditional self love.

BEST FRIEND

2008-04-25T09:25:00.005-04:00

BEST FRIEND

Last night you and your best friend had a fight. You decide not to talk to
her the next day.

She smiles at you. You grind your teeth at her.

She tells her friends nice things about you. You spread bad rumors about her.

She tries to come and talk to you. But you push her aside.

She thinks you are a great friend. You think she is a terrible friend.

She writes nice notes to you, telling you about the best times you shared together. You write about all the bad times you can remember experiencing together.

Deep down you know she's sorry. But all you have is hate.

The next day you find a note. It reads:

Dear -------------,

I tried to tell you yesterday, but you didn't let me speak, I tried to tell you good things, but you were afraid to hear them. I tried to smile at you, to take away the hate. But now it's time to tell you, even though it's a bit late. That I am dying.

I have a bad condition and it is getting worse. I'm sorry to have to tell you that I won't be able to see you today. I wrote this to you today in the hospital. My time is up. I'm sorry I should have told you sooner. I'm really sorry about our argument; you are such a great friend. I promise I shall watch over you,

Lots of love

-------------

You run to the hospital to tell her you are sorry,

But only her mum is left.

Her hand clasped over her face.

And she was crying. Down on her knees she prays, for her daughter to come back.

You are too late.

You wish you told her sorry sooner and got to say goodbye.

All friends have their ups and downs, and sometimes you need to say sorry... Don't wait for the other person to do it first.

Because you never know what could happen.

-- Author Unknown

A Prayer for Today

2008-04-18T09:40:00.001-04:00

A Prayer for Today

Father in heaven, I trust that You are willing and able to make a way where there seems to be no way in my life. Fill me with Your peace and faith and give me a vision for all You have for me. In Jesus’ Name. Amen.

You are Necessary by Bilal

2008-04-16T09:31:00.003-04:00

*Inspired by "Love Walked In" by Marisa de los Santos

**This is a work of fiction -Written by Bilal (brutha66@yahoo.com)

There are those in our lives who come and go and at some level that
is fine.

But there are those in our lives who come in and realize how
necessary they are to our lives and to our daily existence as it is
knowing them that makes the journey a little bit smoother.

Not easy, but smoother (smile).

You are one of those people who have become necessary to my life and
for that I am truly grateful.

I am also so many other things but my mind is swimming with emotions
and I can only attach "grateful" at this time but give me time
(smile).

In knowing you and with you being necessary to my life it shines a
light that possibly and matter-of-factly that I am necessary to your
daily existence as well and you know what? That has my heart doing
cartwheels. Yes, cartwheels and maybe a back flip but I am 35 so I
am not as spry as I used to be but for you I will most certainly try.

All I ask is that if I fall you come and give me a hand. See, how
necessary you are? (LOL).

I love you with all of my being and at times I may not say it enough
but in our history you know why that is the case but let me at this
opportune let you know that I love you and that you are necessary to
my life.

There are days when we go at it but after the storm we come together
in forgiveness and in love.

No, we did not go to pre-school or to the same elementary school or
were childhood friends but two people who met one day at an outing 5
years ago and from that time to present you have become a necessary
part of my life and one that I cherish each and every day.

It is like I have known you all of my life although you and I both
know the truth but with you it feels that way and how you have come
not just into my life but have become a part of me.

You are necessary to me and I am thankful to God above for blessing
me and knowing my needs in providing me someone such as yourself.

Think

2008-04-15T09:26:00.002-04:00

Think

If you think you are beaten, you are;
If you think you dare not, you don't;
If you'd like to win but you think you can't,
You can almost be certain you won't.

If you think that you'll lose, you are lost,
For out in the world you will find
Success begins with a person's will;
It's all in the state of the mind.

If you think you're outclassed you are;
You've got to think high to rise.
You've just got to be sure of yourself
Before you can win the prize.

Life's battles don't always go
To a stronger or faster man (or woman) - I added this one in ;)
But sooner or later the person who wins
Is the person that THINKS they can.
- Anon.

God Today Devotions April 7, 2008

2008-04-08T09:06:00.002-04:00

God Today Devotions April 7, 2008

Keep thy heart with all diligence; for out of it are the issues of life. Proverbs 4:23

The secrets of our heart are revealed in our actions. We may appear to be strong, and capable, sweet and kind, but there may be turmoil, strife, jealousy or anger buried deep within. Regardless of how we may try to hide our feelings they will eventually become visible in our lives. We must guard our hearts, placing them in the hands of God allowing Him to heal the brokenness and fill it with His goodness. Our hearts are naturally corrupt but when God dwells within us He changes them and fills them with His goodness. We must be willing to ask God to look deep within our hearts, to clean them and to heal them.

Prayer:

Search my heart Lord and remove all that is not You. I open my heart and ask that You fill it with Your treasure and help me to protect it always. May my heart always hunger for You, saturate it with Your love. You are my heart's desire.

Amen.

Live.... and enoy LIFE!

2008-04-03T14:25:00.002-04:00

As we grow up, we learn that even the one person that wasn't supposed to ever let you down probably will.

You will have your heart broken probably more than once and it's harder every time. You'll break hearts too, so remember how it felt when yours was broken. You'll fight with your best friend. You'll blame a new love for things an old one did. You'll cry because time is passing too fast, and you'll eventually lose someone you love.

So take too many pictures, laugh too much, and love like you've never been hurt because every sixty seconds you spend upset is a minute of happiness you'll never get back.

Don't be afraid that your life will end, be afraid that it will never begin.

AWESOME QUOTE!!!

2008-04-02T14:52:00.002-04:00

'Never allow someone to be your Priority while allowing yourself to be their Option'

I have used a quote similar to this one as a signature. This is SO true!

It is not healthy to make someone that doesn't give two hoots about you a priority when all they see you is an 'occasional' option.... I can write more but I'd better stop here lol!

i carry your heart with me....

2008-04-01T16:23:00.000-04:00

i carry your heart with me
(i carry it in my heart)
i am never without it
(anywhere i go you go,my dear;
and whatever is done
by only me is your doing,my darling)

i fear not fate
(for you are my fate,my sweet)
i want no world
(for beautiful you are my world, my true) and it's you are whatever a moon has always meant and whatever a sun will always sing is you

here is the deepest secret nobody knows (here is the root of the root and the bud of the bud and the sky of the sky of a tree called life; which grows higher than soul can hope or mind can hide) and this is the wonder that's keeping the stars apart

i carry your heart (i carry it in my heart)

***

by: e.e. cummings

Life is not measured by the breaths you take...but by the moments that take your breath away....

Shekinah Glory Ministry - YES lyrics

2008-03-17T10:43:00.001-04:00

AWESOME AWESOME AWESOME SONG!!!

Will your heart and soul say, yes?
Will your Spirit still say, yes?
There is more that I require of thee;
Will your heart and soul say, yes?

Now will your heart and soul say, yes?
Will your Spirit still say, yes, yes?
If I told you what I really need,
Will your heart and soul say, yes?

(Repeat All)

(Choir)
Soul say, Yes!
(Lead's adlib)
Open up your heart and
Tell the Lord: Yes!
Say: Yes, yeah yeah!
Say:
I'll obey Jesus, I won't stray Jesus
But this time I've made up in my mind, I've made up in my mind
I'll say, say say, Yes!
My soul says yes,
My mind says,
My heart says yes, yes,
Yes I will Jesus,
Yes, Yes!
I'll do what You want me to do
I'll say what You want me to say

I'll go, if You lead me,
If you lead me, if you lead me,
If you lead me,
If you lead me I'll go, yes!

Lift your hands and tell the Lord,
Come on open up your heart and say: Yes, yes, yes!!!

ALL God wants is, YES!
All God wants, all God wants,
All God wants is YES,
I won't be afraid
I'll step out on Your Word
I'll declare Your glory
Yes I will, Yes I will
I wanna do Your will Jesus,
I wanna do your will,
I wanna do your will
My soul says
Yes, yes, yes, yes!!

(Background the whole song)

Yes (repeat)

There is more that I require of thee (repeat)

My soul says:
Yes!...

My mom...

2008-03-14T13:13:00.002-04:00

I was having a bad day yesterday and I called my mom to talk... after told her what was going on she said the sweetest thing to me....

She is proud of me and my accomplishments thus far.

That put me in tears. My family are not open with their affection (a family trait lol) and that threw me for a loop. I love my mommy!!

Good Black Men!

2008-02-25T10:06:00.003-05:00

Food For Thought:

Good Black Men are indeed all around us. We pass them on the streets, in the malls, and at work. Most we can't see because we don't know what a good man really looks like. He usually isn't flashy enough or rich enough to turn our heads. He might not wear a suit or push a Lexus. He might not have a body like Tyson with a Denzel face. But, as you mature, you realize it's better to find someone who's got your back rather than someone who turns your head.

A good man doesn't agree wholeheartedly with everything you say. He doesn't just tell you what you want to hear and do the opposite. He doesn't declare how sensitive, sweet, caring, sincere, etc. he is (he won't have to because it shows). He has his own opinions and yours may clash, but he doesn't have to degrade you to prove he's right. He even admits at times to being wrong, especially if you are willing to do the same.

A good man is not going to meet every item on your checklist. He is human with frailties and faults mixed in with all of his wonderful, strong attributes. He needs your love and respect. He needs to feel that you don't live to catch him doing something wrong so you can declare, "Aha! I knew you were a dog!"

A good man isn't insecure about his woman having great achievements. In fact, he is her number one supporter and becomes disappointed with her when she begins to lose herself, especially for the sake of not hurting his feelings, or only wanting to make him happy. His happiness comes with seeing her excel in her dreams and accomplishing her goals. For as she excels and is exalted, a good woman will bring her good man right along with her.

A good man doesn't necessarily give you a huge birthday or Valentine's gift. He shows his love in the ways that are comfortable to him. Don't judge him by TV standards. No one is really living a fairy
tale. You'll miss ! out on your own fairy tale by buying into the myth that our men are no good. It's just not true.

A good black man is a man of his word. He says what he means and means what he says. His word is his bond. He never leaves you wondering if he is going to call or show up - he is dependable. A good black man has a love and a heart for God. As his relationship and love with and for God grows so will his relationship and love with and for you grow...

Do you have a male friend....

2008-02-21T09:07:00.002-05:00

That you can confide in??

I have one. And let me tell you he comes in handy!! Whenever I have a situation that warrants the male perspective, I can always count on his words of wisdom or his girl are ya crazy for doing saying that?? He's a good male friend...

Do you have one?

Sweetest Email Message!

2008-02-15T10:44:00.006-05:00

I have NEVER met this man, but we have been email buddies for about 5+ years now. We have been conversating about how my Valentine's Day went... or lack there of... Look at his response:

"Well no matter what my Lovely you can always have me as a valentine, and now that I know your Birthday is Friday, I may not be your man, but I will make sure you my beautiful lady get something. I will never understand how men never appreciate the beautiful flowers that they have."

What really moved me was this statement: "I will never understand how men never appreciate the beautiful flowers they have." He made me go into a "full bloom" when I read that!!

Online friends can be better than the real ones..... LOL!

>>Part 2!

"I see, I am flattered that you liked some of my statement. But what I spoke is truth. I know people and hell, I may even be one, who have the most beautiful women and then something happens and the love is lost, or cast aside for what? For want of two allegedly mature individual not being able to sort out their differences without one feeling they lost.

In a way I am glad that my ex and I can still communicate they way we do. there is no hate. Just an understanding that we have different views on things and paths that we must travel."

Happy Valentine's Day!

2008-02-14T13:39:00.002-05:00

Sonnet XVII

I do not love you as if you were salt-rose or topaz,
or the arrow of carnations the fire shoots off.
I love you as certain things are to be loved,
in secret, between the shadow and the soul.

I love you as the plant that never blooms,
but carries in itself the light of hidden flowers.
Thanks to your love a certain fragrance,
risen darkly from the earth, lives darkly in my body.

I love you without knowing how, or when, or from where,
I love you straightforwardly, without complexities or pride,
so I love you because I know no other way than this:
where "I" does not exist, nor "you,"
So close that your hand on my chest is my hand,
So close that your eyes close and I fall asleep.

-Pablo Neruda (from 100 Love Sonnets)

A Prayer for Today

2008-02-12T09:50:00.000-05:00

Heavenly Father, help me to hear Your voice clearly.

I surrender every area of my heart to You today and ask that You remove anything that displeases You.

Thank You for leading me on a good path for my life.

In Jesus’ Name. Amen.

The Four Agreements

2008-02-08T15:52:00.000-05:00

The Four Agreements, Don Miguel Ruiz

1. Be Impeccable With Your Word
Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love.

2. Don't Take Anything Personally
Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won't be the victim of needless suffering.

3. Don't Make Assumptions
Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.

4. Always Do Your Best
Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse and regret.

You are not an accident...

2008-02-06T10:37:00.000-05:00

"You know me inside and out.... how I was sculpted from nothing into something" Psalm 139:15

Your birth was no mistake or mishap,
and your LIFE is no fluke of nature.
Your parents may not have planned you, BUT
God did.

Keyshia Cole - I Remember

2008-02-02T10:27:00.000-05:00

There is a part of this song that hits close to my heart: For the rest of my life, I promise myself I Will love me first GENUINELY.....

Keyshia Cole I Remember Lyrics

OOOhh yeah oh yeah
Oooh, remember
Oooohh remember, don't wanna know

Where were you, when I said I loved you?
And where were you, when I cried at night?
Waiting up, couldn't sleep without you
Thinking of, all the times we shared

I remember when my heart broke
I remember when I gave up loving you
My heart couldn't take no more of you
I was sad and lonely

I remember when I walked out
I remember when I screamed I hated you
But somehow deep inside, still loving you, sad and lonely

No one knew, all the pain I went through
All the love, I saved deep in my heart for you
DIDN'T KNOW WHERE I WOULD GO, WHERE I WOULD BE
But you made me leave,
and plus my heart it just
It just kept telling me so

I remember when my heart broke
I remember when I gave up loving you
My heart couldn't take no more of you,

I was sad and lonely
I remember when I walked out
I remember when I said I hated you
But somehow deep inside, still loving you, so sad and lonely

There was nowhere else to go, oh
Nobody else, to turn to, no
For the rest of my life,
I promise myself I
Will love me first
GENUINELY

I remember when my heart broke
I remember when I gave up loving you
My heart couldn't take no more of you
I was sad and lonely

I remember when I walked out
I remember when I said I hated you
But somehow deep inside, still loving you, sad and lonely
I remember when I walked out
I remember when I gave up loving you
My heart couldn't take no more of you
so sad and lonely

I remember when I stormed out
I remember when I gave up loving you,
I was sad and lonely

It All Starts With God....

2008-02-01T14:01:00.001-05:00

It's not all about you...
You were born by God's purpose
And for His purpose....
Focusing on ourselves will never
reveal our life's purpose.

God's Boxes

2008-01-31T10:28:00.000-05:00

** I've always liked this.... I'm learning to LEAVE my sorrows in the black box and don't look back...

God's Boxes

I have in my hands two boxes,
Which God gave me to hold.
He said, "Put all your sorrows in the black box,
And all your joys in the gold."

I heeded His words, and in the two boxes,
Both my joys and sorrows I stored,
But though the gold became heavier each day,
The black was as light as before.

With curiosity, I opened the black,
I wanted to find out why,
And I saw, in the base of the box, a hole,
Which my sorrows had fallen out by.

I showed the hole to God, and mused,
"I wonder where my sorrows could be!"
He smiled a gentle smile and said,
"My child, they're all here with me.."

I asked God, why He gave me the boxes,
Why the gold and the black with the hole?
"My child, the gold is for you to count your blessings,
The black is for you to let go."

Diva-tude Attitude Check one, Check two!

2008-01-30T17:00:00.000-05:00

My Goals

Spiritually: Have a better relationship with God
Action plan: Read my bible more

Relationally: Actually I need to step back from this for a minute
Action plan: I need to sit back and see what's really going on here... and make some adjustments

Physically: Lose weight (15 pounds so far)
Action plan: Continue with WW and hitting the gym

Professionally: Build my real estate client database
Action plan: Hand out more cards and attend networking events

Financially: Increase my savings
Action plan: Stop shopping (Lord HELP ME in this area!)

My first priority is building my savings. I have grand plans and I need to fund this PLAN.

My greatest motivation is my mom. She is so proud of her baby and what I have accomplished. But she has always been my source of inspiration.

My greatest reward will be one day being totally debt free and live life like it is GOLDEN; spiritually and financially!

Someone.....

2008-01-30T10:34:00.000-05:00

I am really digging this one! The bottom line is I have to learn....

Someone can love you, but you make yourself happy.
Someone can teach you, but you must apply what you learn.
Someone can coach you, but you must win the game.
Someone can give you an opportunity, but you must show up capable and prepared.
Someone can tell you truth or lies, but you must learn discernment.
Someone can tempt you, but you must learn discipline.
Someone can offer you advice, but you must learn to trust your own inner knowing.
Someone can be selfish and withhold love, but you must learn how to give.
Someone can pity you, but you must learn to bear your own sorrow.
Someone can reject and leave you, but you must learn to feel whole.
Someone can ignore you, but you must see your own value and worth.
Someone can help you, but you must learn to do for self.
Someone can hold a grudge, but you must learn how to forgive.
Someone can show you a new way, but you must want the change.
Someone can offer you love, but you must feel worthy of receiving love.
Someone can encourage you, but you must motivate yourself.

"Learning to Love"

2008-01-29T08:59:00.000-05:00

"Learning to Love"

1Cor. 13:4 Love is patient, love is kind, and is not jealous;
love does not brag and is not arrogant, does not act
unbecomingly; it does not seek its own.

Searching for love these days can get you hurt. People
are crazier than ever before and they don't know how
to love or be loved most of the times. You can really
love someone and be taken for granted or be kicked
to the curb. You can not love and be lonely and bitter.
Love is one of those things that you have to give in to
if you ever expect to be happy in this life. But we must
first understand that love is of God and it's a fruit of his
Spirit. So, if you are "of" God, then you should love for
real! Be patient with the ones you love. Don't abuse
them or expect them to be perfect. Always look at
yourself and your own shortcomings when you are
loving someone. That way, you can always understand
that we make mistakes, but true love understands
and is not short tempered.

The greatest love of all, contrary to what that Whitney
song said, is laying down your life for someone. This is
the love of God. To put yourself aside and to give to
others. In a relationship, a friendship, or just a good
brotherly love, you have to practice forsaking yourself
for others. Real love will cause you to not say certain
things that you know will offend the ones you love.
Real love will cause you to ask instead of command.
Real love will cause you to be concerned instead of
judgmental. Real love puts your own needs aside for
the needs of others. God loved us so much that he
put heaven on hold, sent his son to die for us. He gave
his very life for us and showed us why he is love!
And that's the attitude we must have towards the
people we say we love. It can't always be about you,
but real love will cause you to focus on the needs of
others. If you are a Christian, then act like one and
love for real. Real love will always show up in your
actions and if you love for someone, you will always
treat as good as yourself.

That's real love!

Suggested Reading: John 15:13, Titus 3:4,
Eph. 3:17, 1John 4:7, 1John 4:12

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Diva Confession....

2008-01-28T15:05:00.000-05:00

Dear heavenly Father,

Forgive me for the times I choose to go my own way and give in to what my flesh demands. Help me to yield to Your Spirit more and more each day. I trust You to lead me to the joy and fulfillment I desire so deeply. Most of all, let my ultimate peace and satisfaction come from knowing I have been pleasing to You.

In Jesus’ name,

Amen

Praise God!!

2008-01-25T08:51:00.000-05:00

As much as I feel that my life is in a shambles, I have to praise God for:

Waking me up this morning
My family that stand behind me
My friends that care about me
Having my job in the state of the economy when a lot of people are doing/going without

Most importantly God continuing love for me despite all of my shortcomings and being there to pick me up when I have fallen flat on my face.

God I love you & will honor you for all the days of my life!

A Place For Worries

2008-01-24T00:30:00.000-05:00

A Place For Worries
Surrender Box

There are times when our minds become too full. Our to-do lists, worries, plans, and dreams may be so crowded together in our heads that we don't have room to think. We may believe that we are somehow taking care of our desires and concerns by keeping them at the forefront of our minds. In maintaining our mental hold on every detail, however, we may actually delay the realization of our dreams and the resolution of our worries because we won't let them go. At times such as these, we may want to use a surrender box.

A surrender box allows us to let go of our worries and desires so the universe can take care of them for us. We write down what we want or need to happen and then place the note into a box. By writing and placing our thoughts in the box, we are taking action and letting the universe know we need help and are willing to surrender our feelings. We give ourselves permission to not concern ourselves with that problem any longer and trust that the universe is taking care of it. You may even want to decorate your box and place it in a special place. Your surrender box is a sacred container for your worries. Not only do you free up space in your mind by letting go of our worries and desires and dropping them into your surrender box, but you are giving your burden over to a higher power. Once we drop our worries and desires into the surrender box, we free our minds so we can be fully present in each moment.

Surrendering our worries and concerns and placing them in the hands of the universe doesn't mean that we've given up or have been defeated. Instead, we are releasing the realization of our desires and the resolution of our worries and no longer concerning ourselves with their outcomes. It's always fun to go back and pull the slips of paper out of the box once your requests have been granted. And it's amazing how quickly problems go away and dreams come true when we finally let go and allow a higher power to help us.

Diva Confessions of the day...

2008-01-23T13:05:00.001-05:00

I will look at the entire scope of my life and approach each level of my spirit with the dedication it deserves. I will choose to honor God by being a complete picture of how He created me to function.

In order to do this, I will now apply the spiritual gifts have not been applying in order to help me increase my faith & understanding in areas of my life I cannot control.

Diva Confession for the day... and comment

2008-01-22T13:47:00.000-05:00

I can go forth in the assurance that God's plans for my life are certain and true-they will come to pass as I walk in cooperation with Him. In order to receive all that He has for me, I will open my hands and let go of hopelessness in order to focus on fulfilling what God has created for me and called me to do.

The questions in this book are very hard for me to answer. I am not used to reveling myself in this manner... even if it is only me reading my answers. One question I honestly could not answer: "What area of your life has given you the greatest sense of significance?" This scares me and also brings up another question I have a hard time answering: "What is my purpose in life?"

I pray that when I am finished with this book I will be able to answer both....

Diva-tudes...

2008-01-21T17:51:00.000-05:00

I am currently reading this book by Michelle McKinney Hammond: Diva-tudes; Divine Wisdom for living, loving and overcoming... It is actually a workbook that I feel will help me grow personally and spiritually.

This is my confession for today:

Today is a new day. The past no longer counts as I create a new present by giving my future to God and agreeing with His divine plan for me. I will be begin by erasing all negative thoughts and doubts in my regards to my singleness.

A Moment Of Serenity

2008-01-21T17:49:00.000-05:00

A Moment Of Serenity

Take a moment to pause and remember who you are. Take a moment to reflect on the things that have real and lasting meaning in your life.

In a world where there is so much change from instant to instant, keep yourself ever connected to those values that endure. Refresh your spirit often with a time of quiet serenity.

Find refuge from the noise and turmoil, and you'll be able to hear the voice of purpose and meaning, calling from within. There are many valuable things you know without being told, and it can be energizing to contemplate them.

Beyond the shallow concerns that must scream for attention are life's real treasures. Those treasures come clearly into focus when you step back a little bit and take an objective look.

Pay attention to the nagging feeling that there must be more to life than all the rush and confusion. There most certainly is.

Take the time to make time stand still. And take in the experience of being.

Quote.....

2008-01-18T11:29:00.000-05:00

"Being happy doesn't mean that everything is perfect…it just means that you have decided to see beyond the imperfections."

Many of you may not know... but I LOVE QUOTES! The one above was posted on one of my many online groups that I participate (or try to).

This one speaks to me. I don't try to be perfect... but I do strive for PERFECTION in areas I totally control LOL!

Gotta go back to work!

Tantalizing Tuesday!

2008-01-15T19:33:00.000-05:00

Today was actually a good day! It started out rocky but ended up being pretty good.

I am 'dieting' for health reasons and I am doing good. Could be doing better, but I find if I deprive myself, I end up binge eating later. (Been there... done that....) I went to the grocery store tonight and bought some goodies that I can feel good about eating and not feel guilty. I am at my weakest when I am at work. Sitting all day can make you want to nibble; all the bad things! I bought some carrots tonight. I am sure that will kill the urge to nibble lol!

Well I am going to go and walk on the treadmill while watching the Biggest Loser!